Couple must reconcile ambition and biological clock

have a serious discussion about the future, because you both have to be comfortable with what happens next.

If she wants to start a family right away and you feel you can’t afford it, neither of you will be happy. If she’s willing to wait another few years to start a family (her biological clock should still be ticking, or she could freeze her eggs), then it’s important you agree about what needs to be in place financially in order for that to happen.

Dear Abby: My parents like to visit us and bring along their little dog, “Truffle.” We are happy to have them and their dog, however we have an issue. My parents allow Truffle on the furniture. We have a dog and love her to pieces, but feel that furniture is for humans. Because our family likes to relax by sprawling on the couch at times, it’s not as pleasant once a pet has been lying there.

My husband has voiced this concern but has been ignored. We are going to visit my parents soon, and I’m wondering how to handle this. We love everyone and don’t want to hurt their feelings. I appreciate your advice. —

Dear Off the Couch: If you and your husband prefer that animals stay off the furniture in your home, that is completely your privilege. In your home, your rules should be respected. If your parents choose to ignore your request, they should stay in a petfriendly hotel or leave Truffle at home.

However, when you visit in their home, their rules should apply. And if your husband doesn’t want to sit or lie on their couch because of the animal hair or the odor, he should sit on a dining chair that can be wiped down, take a washable cover to throw on the couch or stay home.