Spouse who wants a divorce needs to clarify his intentions

be a midlife crisis. Am I misreading his signals or being strung along? — Anonymous

Dear Anonymous: Your husband is sending you mixed messages. Could he be having performance issues? Do you still love him? You two should have an honest discussion about whether your marriage is salvageable. If it isn’t, ask him when and whether he plans to file for divorce, as this situation has left you in limbo, which is unfair to you. Then consult a lawyer to make sure you get a fair shake.

Dear Abby: I’m a young adult who suffers migraines. My family and close friends know about them and are supportive. Making friends and going on dates are tough when I know I might have to flake out because of a migraine. What’s a good way to gracefully bow out of plans without seeming like a flake? Or should I just tell new people about my migraines? — Hurting in New York

Dear Hurting: Migraines are nothing to be ashamed of. More than 12 percent of Americans have them. You needn’t announce them when you meet someone, but tell the truth when you must cancel an engagement.

Dear Abby: I’m the youngest of four children. Our family gets together weekly for Sunday dinner, a tradition I’ve loved since childhood, although I have grown less fond of Sundays. I’m 30 now but no one listens to me; no one asks my advice. I could be at the table with my finger up my nose, and no one would notice. How can I change this? — Patience Running Thin

Dear Patience: At the next Sunday dinner, speak up and say exactly what you just wrote. If nothing changes, make other plans for Sunday.