Relatives have right to avoid sex offender among them

nephew, but ignoring it could be dangerous for their kids.

Also, he might no longer be allowed to be in the presence of minors — and, if caught, he might have to go back to prison.

Dear Abby: I’ve been married 40 years. Ten years into it, my wife had an affair with her first love, “Will,” a high-school relationship that resulted in a child. We raised the boy as our own.

Fast-forward 20 years. She has had another affair with Will and continues to want to stay in contact with him. She insists that she’s in love with me but says she also loves him and “needs him” in her life.

She will be traveling to her hometown soon and plans to have dinner with him. She insists that there will be no sex and that her heart and mind are in a better place. Must I tolerate this or can I insist on no contact with Will?

Dear Other Man: Your wife seems to lack willpower with her high-school sweetheart. You need not tolerate anything that is painful for you. You certainly can insist that she have no more contact with him.

Dear Abby: My friend just died. I receive only Social Security disability, and I’m poor. I have no suit or dark dress pants, just blue jeans and T-shirts. However, I can afford a dark-colored dress shirt to wear to my friend’s funeral. Is this acceptable attire for saying goodbye, or would it be better to say goodbye on my own after the funeral? — Dear Saying Goodbye: I’m sorry that you lost your friend. If you want to attend the funeral, by all means do. Wear whatever you feel is respectful and stop worrying about offending anyone’s sensibilities. People are there to pay respects to your friend. No one should be judging you.