Like all kids, talkative boy needs limits, parental support

something (or everything) and prove over a lifetime to be the bearer of special gifts; a kid can be an early standout at speaking, reading, music, etc. — and by 11 or 16 be overtaken by later bloomers and become one of the crowd.

It’s good to feed kids’ interests and talents, but there’s a fine line between feeding their interests and co-opting their talents in service of your own pride.

The way not to cross it is to banish “future” for now. Sign him up for X because he loves it, not because visions of X scholarships dance in your head.

It’s painful to watch a frontrunner child who has been encouraged to “train for the future” wrestle with the universe-altering reality of seeing the rest of the pack catch up.

The other extreme is painful, too — where the child remains a standout but feels trapped and isolated by a life of narrow pursuit.

Maybe this isn’t what you meant by “turn his speaking power into an asset for him in future.” But it tripped me up hard because your child’s precocity has no bearing whatsoever on the answer to his classroom disruptions. Which is: 1) Set clear limits. 2) Enforce them kindly and firmly.

3) Encourage him to roam freely within those limits, and roam joyfully with him.

That’s it. Unless it comes to:

4) Develop a Plan B if your child’s needs aren’t being met — anything from developmental screening (for the “does not calm down” thing) to a school with more generous recess.

So the only answer to the “how and where should I train him” question is to encourage him every day, with an eye toward balance and a healthy tolerance for trial and error, and to teach him to be true to himself and to respect others.