Man disliked by stepkids right to want to skip visits

Dear Unliked: It’s interesting that your wife didn’t tell you why her children don’t like you — or, if she did, that you didn’t elaborate.

Under the circumstances, your reaction is understandable, so stay home and enjoy yourself while your wife visits them. You’ll all be happier.

Dear Abby: My wife and I just celebrated our 30th wedding anniversary over a long weekend. Late in the second day of the trip, she said, “Don’t get mad at me, but a guy who works for me asked me to bring him a souvenir.”

Why wouldn’t she mention it at the start of the trip? It makes me feel like she was thinking of him on our anniversary. Am I reading too much into this, or should I be concerned?

Dear Unsure: Please stop worrying. If you and your bride have had a happy marriage for 30 years, I’m guessing that she was thinking about how lucky you are to have had three blessed decades together.

If she had anything to hide, she wouldn’t have mentioned the souvenir. She probably brought it up because she didn’t want to forget that she’d agreed to take something home to him.

Dear Abby: My boyfriend of 12 years worries me. He wants life a certain way, not as it is. He can talk for a long time, and, although he never really lies, he never exactly tells the truth, either. This strains our relationship.

I love him but don’t trust him. I have caught him in many discrepancies. What should I do?

Dear Nervous: I think in your heart you already know what you should do. If you can’t trust someone, there’s no basis for a meaningful relationship.