Socializing separately with kids might help snubbed mom

talked with my exhusband and his wife. Abby, I have always been there for my kids, through sickness and financial hardships. My ex has a great deal more money to spend on them than I do. I suspect this may be the reason they cater to him. How do I cope with my feelings of rejection? — Hurt Mom in the West

Dear Hurt Mom: You aren’t going to change the “family” dynamic at this stage. Rather than struggling to hold back tears as your older children slather their father with attention, consider socializing with them separately.

Dear Abby: Recently, I started taking yoga classes at a new studio with lovely teachers and — mostly — great students. One individual, though, seems to think the class is his own social event. He over-chants “ohm” and moans loudly. Would it be rude to say something to him, or should I just find another studio? The entire purpose of relaxing and clearing my mind is now impossible. — Mentally Drained in New Jersey

Dear Drained: Do not address the overchanter directly. Instead, discuss your concerns with the teacher, because you may not be the only participant who finds the person’s vocalizations to be a distraction.

Dear Abby: My best friend is having a party and has invited my exboyfriend. He broke up with me a few months ago and already has a new girlfriend. He broke my heart, and I have been a mess ever since. I told her I’m not going if he goes, and she is still inviting him! Should I stop being friends with her? How should I handle this?

— Not OK in the North

Dear Not OK: Because seeing your ex-boyfriend with his new girlfriend would be too painful for you, handle it by not attending the party. As to whether you should stop being best friends with the hostess, it appears that she may have stopped being best friends with you.