Trainer turns woman’s head, spouse is starting to notice
Dear Abby: I have grown really close to “Pete,” my trainer at the gym I joined two years ago. We are both married. I know it’s wrong to feel this way. I love my husband, but I’m not sure I am “in love” with him anymore.
I think what I feel for Pete may be more than just a physical attraction. Our lives are so parallel. We are both loyal to our spouses, so nothing has happened. I’m not sure if he feels the same about me, but I sense our chemistry when we are together. Our friendship hugs are lasting longer, and our flirting has increased to a different level. We text every week in the morning and now, since he quit his job at the gym, we have started to miss each other. I can’t stop thinking about him. He’s on my mind constantly.
I know I shouldn’t open up Pandora’s box because it could destroy lives. My husband overheard one of my virtual workout sessions with him and afterward was cold and different toward me, so I know he was picking up on our connection. Should I talk to Pete about how I’m feeling or leave it alone?
— Working It Out
Dear Working: Crushing on a perfect physical specimen is common, and when something is missing in your life, it’s easy to fixate on someone you have contact with regularly. If you feel the urge to work out, work things out with your husband because that marriage of yours could use some toning up.
Dear Abby: I work for a small company in Colorado. It pays well. I will be quitting my job as soon as I’m out of debt, which will be soon. My job is way too stressful. The problem is, my boss is a relative by marriage and a good friend. Most of the stress in my job comes from the way he communicates with me and everyone else in emails.
He is often rude, condescending and accusatory. It has become more than my fragile nerves can handle.
When I quit, how can I exit without calling him out when I’m asked my reason for leaving? Do you have any advice as to a vague yet satisfactory “reason” for leaving?
— Keeping The Peace In Colorado
Dear Keeping: When the question is asked during your exit interview, express gratitude for having had the opportunity to work there. Your reason for leaving will be to “explore other opportunities.”