Wife feels resentment toward lazy husband
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Dear Annie: My first husband was a workaholic with little time for me or any enjoyment, so when I divorced and met my current husband, I was thrilled to find such an optimistic, fun-loving man. He is affectionate, extremely clever and a real people person. However, as years go by, he seems to have less and less ambition and isn’t doing his fair share to keep us out of debt.
When we first met, he was working two jobs to cover his expenses and pay child support. He now works one job and thinks nothing of knocking off early to go home and watch sports and goof off on the computer.
A large percentage of my personal paycheck is spent covering his insurance, his past-due taxes, his kid’s college loan payments, etc. There’s little money left for me to get a haircut or have lunch with friends once in a while. I’m now facing some health challenges, and he hasn’t stepped up to help me. I’m constantly juggling overdraft notices and selling things to keep us out of hock.
My resentment is starting to destroy any affection I had. I just want to be treated fairly. Seeing as that’s not happening, I’m ready to separate. I am self-sufficient and would be better off financially on my own; however, I’m hoping a separation might make him wake up and start doing his fair share.
Am I fooling myself thinking a separation might help him grow up? Do I need to accept that I married Peter Pan?
Dear Wendy: Don’t send Peter Pan packing to Neverland just yet. He’s fallen into a lazy slump because it’s been easy for him to do so, and now he needs a push to get moving again.
Being honest and open is your best shot at a happily-ever-after ending. Tell him that if this marriage is to continue, it needs to start functioning like a true partnership. Perhaps he should pick up a second job again, if that’s what it takes to cover his expenses.
I would also talk to a financial adviser, as it might be wise to keep your finances separate until he demonstrates that he’s ready to grow up. And if that never happens? He can fly away to another couch.