Look at Christ’s love for good start to a healthy mar­riage

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My par­ents fought all the time be­fore they fi­nally got a di­vorce. Now I worry about get­ting mar­ried, be­cause I know I never learned how to be a good hus­band or par­ent. I don’t want to end up like they did. How can I get over this fear? Or can I?

Yes, you can get over this fear — and I want to as­sure you that God not only wants you to get over it, but he wants to help you. May the Psalmist’s ex­pe­ri­ence be­come yours: “I sought the lord, and he an­swered me; he de­liv­ered me from all my fears” (Psalm 34:4).

Ad­mit­tedly your par­ents weren’t very good ex­am­ples — but you know it, and that should en­cour­age you! What if you thought that fight­ing and self­ish­ness were a nor­mal part of mar­riage?

Then you’d have rea­son to worry — but they aren’t the way God in­tended mar­riage to be, and you re­al­ize it. Down in­side you know mar­riage ought to be marked by love and com­pas­sion and kind­ness — and God can help this be­come true in your life. He also can help you over­come your fears and your lack of con­fi­dence — and he will, as you al­low him to take con­trol of your life.

This is why I urge you to turn to Je­sus Christ and in­vite him to come into your life. Do you want to know what true love is? Look at Christ, be­cause by his life and death he demon­strated the true mean­ing of sac­ri­fi­cial love. The Bi­ble says, “God demon­strates his own love for us in this: While we were still sin­ners, Christ died for us” (Ro­mans 5:8).

Then learn from the ex­am­ple of oth­ers. Learn what it means to put oth­ers first in­stead of your­self; learn too how demon­strate your love in prac­ti­cal ways.

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