Reader wants to support friend

Dear Harriette: I can’t stand my boyfriend’s taste in music. Music is extremely important to me, as I am a recording artist. I believe that music reflects your soul and who you truly are. There isn’t a single song that I’ve played for him that he’s liked; he doesn’t even like the music I make. I’m not offended because it doesn’t tend to attract his demographic. I don’t like the fact that we can’t bond over something as simple as music. Do you think this is a sign of a deeper issue? — Songstress

Dear Songstress: I remember when I met my husband and began to listen to the music that he likes. It was so different from my musical choices. Some of it I liked; some, I didn’t. Now, nearly 30 years later, our musical tastes remain very different. Sometimes when he is listening to his favorite radio station in the car, I pop in my headphones and listen to something else. Often, we take turns listening to each other’s channels when we are driving long distances. The point is: We figured out ways to compromise.

If you two can come to that agreement and be willing to listen to each other’s music from time to time, it may not become an issue for you. The one trouble spot may be the fact that your boyfriend doesn’t like your music. But even that can be overcome. We don’t always like or appreciate our partner’s work. As long as you avoid passing judgment, you can work it out.

Send questions to askharriette@harriettecole.com or c/o Universal Uclick, 1130 Walnut St., Kansas City, MO 64106.