Trailblazer Albright was the friend all women needed
At some point in her long and powerful career, Madeleine Albright decided she needed no invitation to speak her mind, no matter how many men in the room.
“I think this has happened to every single woman,' she told USA TODAY Editor-in-chief Nicole Carroll in 2020. “If you're the only woman in the room and there is a discussion going on, you think to yourself, ‘I'll say something.'
“Then you think, ‘No, I won't say it because it will sound stupid.' Then some man says it and everybody thinks it's brilliant and you're really mad at yourself for not having said something.”
She put up with that for too many years, she said, but teaching at Georgetown University helped her reframe the problem. Her motto for her students: “You have to interrupt.”
No raising hands. No hoping someone will see you and think you have something to say. “I now interrupt a lot,” she told Carroll. There's not a woman reading this who doesn't understand the power of her resolve. Too many of us envy it, still.
Albright spurred brighter futures
Albright died Wednesday, at age 84. Obituaries note that, after representing our country at the United Nations, she became the first woman to serve as U.S. secretary of State, from 1997 to 2001. To many, this feels like ancient history, when 168 women serve in Congress – 144 in the House, 24 in the Senate – and Kamala Harris is vice president. It's not enough, but there's no denying the progress. For many of us, though, Secretary Albright was the surest sign of our own brighter futures. After a unanimous Senate confirmation, she was the highest-ranking woman in the history of our government.
She was a child of Czech refugees who fled the Nazis and raised her to be Catholic. Only after she became secretary of state did she find out, through Washington Post reporting, that she was Jewish and that 26 family members were killed in the Holocaust, including three of her grandparents.
She responded to this discovery with the love of a loyal daughter:
“My parents were fabulous people who did everything they could for their children and brought us to this amazing country and were protective, overly so in terms of worrying about us and all kinds of things. I can't question their motivation.” Albright believed that a woman who climbs must reach behind her. She lifted other women, always, and expected nothing less from the rest of us. In February 2016, at a campaign event for her longtime friend Hillary Clinton, Albright repeated a line she had used “a thousand times before”: “There is a special place in hell for women who don't help other women.”
My memorable Madeleine moment
A few times over the years, I had the chance to talk to Albright. Mostly we discussed whatever was happening in the world, as I was always eager to pick her brain and she was ever patient with the endeavor. Our most memorable conversation, though, was a personal one over dinner, with my husband. This was in the fall of 2012, just weeks before President Barack Obama's reelection.
After the new year, Hillary Clinton was expected to resign as secretary of state. At that dinner, I asked Madeleine if she knew whether Hillary had decided to run again for president. She answered as a concerned friend, and one who knew the toll of the job.
“I've been telling her to take some time off for herself,” she said. “Long walks, lots of rest, and plenty of laughter with old friends. Only then should she decide whether she's ready for another presidential race.”
I have no idea whether Hillary took her advice, or even how strenuously Madeleine was insisting. What I do know is that, in that moment, I came to see how every woman needs a friend like Madeleine Albright.
Columnist Connie Schultz is a Pulitzer Prize winner. Reach her at Cschultz@usatoday.com