Father of twins fears his wife is suffering from depression ART EXHIBITS AND OPENINGS

DEAR ABBY: My wife gave birth to our twin girls almost a year ago, and for the most part, things have been great. They are happy and healthy, but I’m not sure how happy my wife is. I’m afraid she may be suffering from postpartum depression, but she won’t see anyone about it.

She’s always putting the girls first and is stressed out because there’s never enough time in the day to do everything. From day one, I have made sure that I’m doing my part. I help cook and clean and change poopy diapers. I feel I’m very hands-on, and she agrees. I know twins can be stressful, but I’m pretty relaxed about the process and go with the flow.

I have begged her to talk to someone, but she thinks if she does she will have to take antidepressants and won’t be able to breastfeed. It’s starting to affect our marriage because she takes out her frustration on me. I get yelled at for stuff that doesn’t make sense or hasn’t really happened.

Would it be wrong to tell her we are going to lunch and take her to see someone instead — like a mental health intervention? Or should I let her figure and because they don’t hear my side, they automatically assume he is some sort of victim. I then start receiving phone calls and text messages from everyone wanting to know what’s going on and trying to give me advice. When I politely turn them down, they get angry and start lecturing me about how wrong I am.

This happens often, no matter how small the argument. What do I do? How can I get him to see how much it bothers me? I don’t want the world to know what goes on in our home. Nothing I say gets through to him.

— BETRAYED AND ALONE

DEAR BETRAYED: Your husband knows how much what he’s doing bothers you. He just doesn’t care. He knows that when he runs to his family he will have automatic allies.

It will take work on both your parts with the help of an unbiased licensed marriage and family therapist for your marriage to improve. If your husband won’t go with you — and he may not — you should go without him. Because of his level of immaturity, it’s a wonder your marriage has made it this long without intervention.

OPENINGS Paint Print Opening reception 5-7 p.m. Wednesday Hoxie Gallery, Westerly Library, 44 Broad St., Westerly Featuring the favorite works by 25 area artists and artisans. Runs through March 30. Hours 9 a.m.-8 p.m. Mon.-Thurs., 9 a.m.-6 p.m. Fri., 9 a.m.-4 p.m. Sat.; (401) 596-2877. Mary-Lawrence Bickford Opening reception 5-7 p.m. Friday Marshview Gallery, Estuary Council of Seniors, 220 Main St., Old Saybrook Paintings by featured artist Mary-Lawrence Bickford. Runs through Feb. 28. Hours 7:45 a.m.4 p.m. Mon.-Fri., 9 a.m.-1 p.m. Sat.; (860) 388-1611.

MUSEUMS World War I and the Lyme Art Colony — Florence Griswold Museum of Modern and Contemporary Art; through April 1; also, “Pen to Paper: Artists’ Handwritten Letters from the Smithsonian’s Archives of American Art” and “P.S.: Letters from the Lyme Art Colony” through May 6; 10 a.m.-5 p.m. Tues.-Sat., 1-5 p.m. Sun.; (860) 443-2545. Murmur: Arctic Realities — Mystic Seaport, 75 Greenmanville Ave.; through April 22 in the Collins Gallery; also, “Life in Balance: The

Art of Nikki McClure” through March 4 in C.D. Mallory Building; 9 a.m.-5 p.m. daily; (860) 572-0722. Connecticut Artists Juried Exhibition — Slater Memorial Museum, 108 Crescent St., Norwich; through March 16; hours 9 a.m.-4 p.m. Tues.-Fri., 1-4 p.m. Sat.-Sun.; (860) 887-2506.

GALLERIES

The Artists’ Favorites — Artists’ Cooperative Gallery of Westerly, 7 Canal St., Westerly; through Feb. 25; hours 11 a.m.-7 p.m. Wed.-Sat., 1-5 p.m. Sun.; (401) 596-2221. 16th Biennial Symposium on Arts and Technology Exhibitions — Cummings Art Center, Connecticut College, 270 Mohegan Ave., New London; through March 2; 8:30 a.m.-5 p.m. Mon.-Fri., 1-4 p.m. Sat.-Sun. Contemporary Moments — Cooper and Smith Gallery, 10 Main St., Essex; through April 15; hours 11 a.m.-4 p.m. Mon-Tues., 10:30 a.m.-5 p.m. Wed.-Sun.; (860) 581-8526. Nick McKnight — Gallery at the Wauregan, 200 Main St., Norwich; through Feb. 23; hours 3-5 p.m. daily; (860) 608-2661. Hygienic Photo-gienic — Hygienic Galleries, 79 Bank St., New London; through Sunday; hours 2-7 p.m. Tues.Fri, 11 a.m.-7 p.m. Sat., noon-4 p.m. Sun.; (860) 443-8001.

Lighting the Way: Celebrating Stonington’s Lighthouse — La Grua Center, 32 Water St., Stonington; through Feb. 28; hours 9 a.m.-5 p.m. Mon.-Fri.; (860) 535-2300. Associate and Newly Elected Artists

Exhibition — Lyme Art Association, 90 Lyme St., Old Lyme; through March 2; hours 10 a.m.-5 p.m. Wed.-Sun.; $5 suggested donation; (860) 434-7802.

Third Annual Juried Show — Maple and Main Gallery, 1 Maple St., Chester; through March 31; hours 11 a.m.5 p.m. Wed.-Thurs., 11 a.m.-6 p.m. Fri.-Sat., 11 a.m.-5 p.m. Sun.; (860) 526-6065. Mighty Minis — Melanie Carr Gallery, 1 North Main St., Essex; through April 8; hours noon-5 p.m. Fri.-Sat., noon-4 p.m. Sun.; (860) 830-6949.

Michelle Gemma Photography — Wayne’s Barbershop, 3 Pearl St., Mystic; through May 31; hours 9 a.m.7 p.m. Mon.-Fri., 9 a.m.-3 p.m. Sat.; (860) 245-5245. See Me, Feel Me — Spectrum Gallery, 61 Main St., Centerbrook; through March 18; hours noon-6 p.m. Wed.-Sat., noon-5 p.m. Sun.; (860) 767-0742. Hauschild 1941-2012: A Retrospective — Studio 33 Art and Frame gallery, 140 Bank St., New London; through March 31; hours 9 a.m.-5 p.m. Mon.-Fri., 10 a.m.-3 p.m. Sat.; (860) 442-6355.