Want next year to be bet­ter? Here’s how.

The Denver Post - - LIFE & CULTURE - By of­fer­ing your un­di­vided time, in­volve­ment and en­gage­ment. Third, learn to tol­er­ate dis­agree­ment with­out with­draw­ing, get­ting de­fen­sive or get­ting ar­gu­men­ta­tive. Stay out of debt. It costs too much. For young peo­ple: While you have no­body de­pen­dent upon

The be­gin­ning of a new year is a great time to look at the big pic­ture of our lives. Where are you in the big pic­ture of your life ver­sus where are you want­ing to be? Are there any changes you are want­ing (or need­ing) to make in or­der for the next year to be bet­ter than the last year — or per­haps bet­ter than the last dozen years? Here are my sug­ges­tions about how to go about cre­at­ing a re­newed vi­sion for your­self in the new year:

What did you ac­com­plish or ex­pe­ri­ence in 2016 that you’re proud of or grate­ful for?

What would you like to ex­pe­ri­ence, learn or achieve in 2017? What have you al­ways wanted that you might try do­ing this new year? Cre­ate as large a list as you can in an­swer­ing those ques­tions, and com­mit to set­ting your sights on one or two of those goals. This will give you some­thing to look for­ward to, be­cause truth­fully you do not want to wake up at age 70 and re­al­ize that you haven’t done the things you have al­ways dreamed about. Gaze 12 months into the fu­ture and an­swer this ques­tion: What three to five things did I do in 2017 to make this year so amaz­ing?

If you are mar­ried or in a re­la­tion­ship, what could you do that would make your re­la­tion­ship bet­ter than it is today? (If you can­not an­swer this ques­tion, ask your part­ner, and take se­ri­ously what s/he says.)

I have three ad­di­tional sug­ges­tions for bet­ter­ing an in­ti­mate re­la­tion­ship. First, choose to be at peace with your spouse/ part­ner, rather than an­gry or ir­ri­tated. Sec­ond, you can deepen the con­nec­tion in your re­la­tion­ship

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