Horoscope

Today's birthday (MosdWy ,F eb. 15,

2021) Curious, imaginative and sensitive, you make your unusual dreams and visions a reality. This year, by thinking creatively out of the box — and with more patience — you succeed tremendously. If single, you like to be free to roam, so this is not the year you become committed. If attached, affection is extremely important to you, and your partner needs to give this on a daily basis. LIBRA calms your chaos.

Aries (MWrch 21-Apr il1 9) ★★★★ The adventurer within you awakens. You’re weary of the details of daily routine and long for expansion. Keep your cheerful outlook and be aware of how associates are affecting you. Cultivate positive companions. Tonight: It’s your party and you’ll cry if you want to.

Taurus (April 20-MW y20 ) ★★★★ Peace and quiet today help you find a sense of direction. You have ideas concerning future plans that others aren’t receptive to just yet. Natural beauty in a wilderness setting helps you align your natural inner rhythms. Tonight: Examine new options and seek advice.

Gemini (MW y2 1-Jus e20 ) ★★★★★ Favors are unexpectedly returned.

Friends are sincere and supportive. You will be wise in your selection of longrange goals. Working on projects that have enduring quality brings satisfaction today; think longevity. Tonight: You will feel more grounded and secure.

Cancer (Jus e2 1-Jul y22 ) ★★★★★ You’re shown how important you are to professional associates as well as your loved ones. Return all emails and phone calls promptly. The appropriate responses you make now will make today a success. Tonight: Others are tempted to make plans for you.

Leo (Jul y23 -Aug .22 ) ★★★★★ You can travel back to an old haunt. It’s also a favorable time to reread a favorite book or to review language skills. Stories or poems with a profound message have considerable appeal. You’ll feel more optimistic. Tonight: Interest in forming a new partnership.

Virgo

(Aug .23 -Sept. 22) ★★★ Today brings a mystery to light, and the financial situation is clarified through details a partner brings to your attention. Don’t take advice verbatim, especially about business. A second opinion is a good idea. Tonight: Indulge in something only you want to do.

Libra (Sept. 23-Oct. 22) ★★★★ You attract compliments and adoration from unlikely sources today. Be honest about your feelings if a romantic mood is exhibited by someone to whom you’re not drawn. There could be some new developments at work to analyze. Tonight: Intimate date night.

Scorpio (Oct. 23-No v.2 1) ★★★★ Turn daily duties into a competitive game to boost morale. Your energy and enthusiasm make you an inspiration to co-workers. Don’t hesitate to take on a new responsibility. And make sure to get in some exercise today! Tonight: Delicious home-cooked meal.

Sagittarius (Nov. 22-Dec .2 1) ★★★★★ Today helps you know yourself better and tap into your potential. Others are more loving and cooperative. You can share a good joke with someone you care for. Celebrate by reaching out and focusing on creative projects and hobbies. Tonight: Fun late night.

Capricorn (Dec .22 -JWs. 19) ★★★★★ Entertain at home; plan a family activity. Elderly relatives may have entertaining information about genealogy and family traditions. It’s a splendid time to redecorate and rearrange your home. Tonight: Everyone chips in with rearranging the house — with different varying results.

Aquarius (JWs .20 -Feb. 18) ★★★ Commuter travel or a short neighborhood trip brings a chance encounter or experience that serves to awaken new perspectives. You will be exposed to those who have a different philosophy of life than yours. Tonight: Ongoing emails and phone calls.

Pisces (Feb. 19-MWrch 20) ★★★★ You are slightly distracted with your work today. You will long to make some new purchases, either to give as gifts or to add pleasure to recreation hours. Be sensible and study your budget before overextending though. Tonight: Balancing online retail therapy.

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As the only female and youngest/newest member, I’ve felt undervalued and excluded, despite being the only one with a four-year degree.

So far, I’d brushed these concerns aside because of my youth and lack of experience.

However, two weeks ago, politics came up and I realized that several of my co-workers (who are also co-owners) have beliefs that fly in the face of social justice, such as denying the existence of white privilege and calling women “sugar” or “honey” in the workplace.

It is now clear to me that the secretarial and maid work they’ve had me doing (instead of the engineering I learned in school) may be as much the result of sexism as my lack of seniority. Because the industry is male-dominated, I had expected a certain amount of sexism.

Now I’m wondering whether I can ethically work alongside people who fundamentally disrespect me and disagree with my opinions. But if I quit, they will quite likely replace me with another white male.

Is it my obligation (as a white person and aspiring ally) to try to teach these privileged men something about the experience others are having in this country, and hopefully change the direction of the company? —FitorQuit

Dear Fit or Quit: Identity is obviously extremely important to you. You carefully categorize these co-workers according to their race, gender, and sexual identity. But people are more complicated than their assigned stereotype. The more mature path would be to watch, learn, and be open to lessons coming from unexpected places. Yes, even from that jerk who calls women “honey.”

Push back regarding any workplace behavior that affects your ability to do your job. But to insist that these men must acknowledge their “white privilege” in order to meet your approval? All you would prove is that you are as arrogant as they are.

A true “ally” supports and amplifies the perspective and work of others, allowing them to use their own voice, and not speaking for them.

It is not the job of an ally to assume the position of patron and educator. Nor should you stay in an inferior position in order to prevent another white man from replacing you.

People without status or power have long been forced to tolerate nonsense in order to stay employed, or to advance.

Your own privilege means that you don’t have to do that.

Do you really want to dismantle the patriarchy? Strike out on your own. Look to the careers of Ava DuVernay and Shonda Rhimes for inspiration.

Dear Amy: I have a problem. My spouse and I have been together over 10 years. She was married before.

She makes a terrific salary, is a wonderful cook, loves my dogs, and she’s my best friend.

However, she’s messy, leaves her socks all over the place, and God help our air quality if she’s eaten even one raisin. But I adore her. I want to be with her every moment of my life. Is there something wrong with me?

— Love Struck

Dear Love Struck: Happy belated Valentine’s Day!

I believe that one key to a happy relationship is for both parties to choose to celebrate the joy of the good stuff, and to submit to a combination of surrender and acceptance for the rest.

Thank you for the wonderful reminder that when you really love someone, you love all of them, even those things you don’t really like.

Dear Amy: You nailed it with your response to “Upbeat.”

When really depressed, one cannot usually be cajoled or coaxed out of it with “positive, happy or upbeat” info, slogans or phrases. When I went through a depressed period last year, I ended up calling elderly relatives, not to vent, but to listen. Listening without offering solutions helped me to feel better.

— Been There

Dear Been There: I’m glad you navigated your way out.