Man uses family gas money to buy tattoo

DEARABBY » My family just came back from a relative’s after a weekend visit. The occasion was a birthday party, and he had a tattoo artist come over. My boyfriend — the father of our 14- and 3-yearolds — spent our last $100 and went ahead and got himself a tattoo! We aren’t rich, and we had to borrow money for gas to get home.

I can’t imagine many adult men would do that to their partner. I know a few who would even say, “No, Honey, YOU get something. I can wait.” Is there any hope formankind?

— Mark of Disaster in

Washington

DEARMARKOFDISASTER » There is plenty of hope for mankind; for the father of your 14and 3-year-olds, maybe not so much. Was he under the influence at that party, or does he make poor decisions about money often?

That tatt is now a constant reminder of your disappointment in him, so I hope it’s in a placewhere you don’t have to see it every day or night.

DEARABBY » I am 13.

Three years ago, I was in a car accident that left me in a wheelchair. I have been able to move on in life and am happy and have lots of friends who help me stay active in sports, etc. My problem is, I had a friend before my accident who moved away, and I’msure he doesn’t know.

I just heard his family is moving back here, and I’m not sure how to handle this. Do you have any advice? — Wondering

in New York

DEARWONDERING » The news is bound to be a shock. If you have this young man’s contact information, I vote for letting him know in advance about the accident.