Wedding invites sent only to female relatives
DEAR ABBY » My niece is getting married this spring, which has created a dilemma for my immediate family. When the save-thedate cards went out, she addressed them only to the women in the family. We thought it was a mistake at first, but now the invitations have arrived, and they are also addressed to the women only.
My husband and my son (her first cousin) feel slighted. My son’s wife was invited, but she doesn’t know the bride at all. It seems the bride has a limited number of guests she can invite for the venue. She also has a large number of friends and the
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The Gidwani Family Trust Defence of the Year award from the International Bridge Press Association in 2020 went to Brad Bart from Canada for his play in this deal. It was originally written up by Danny Miles, also from Canada.
Cover the East and South hands. Against four hearts doubled, you (West) lead the diamond king: two, three, 10. Since you and your partner use upside-down signals, you do not know who has the diamond four. What would you do now?
In the auction, North’s redouble showed spades, of course! If North had known his partner was going to bid four hearts, he probably would have doubled four diamonds and collected 300 for down groom’s family attending.
Out of respect for my son and my husband, we all will respond that we will not attend. I feel terrible not being able to see my niece walk down the aisle, but I’m not used to my spouse being ignored. Am I doing the right thing?
DEAR PUZZLED » Before you refuse the wedding invitation, call your niece and ask if she is intentionally excluding the men. Because women make most of the social arrangements, she may not have realized that EACH guest’s name must appear on the invitation. Rather than an attempt two, declarer losing one spade, one heart, one diamond and two clubs. But then it would have ruined a great story.
What did you lead at trick two? If the diamond ace, declarer will ruff, cash the heart ace and play a to exclude family members because their chromosomes are not the same as hers, this may simply have been an etiquette boo-boo.
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Bart found the only defense — at trick two, he led the spade queen! Declarer won with dummy’s king, ran the heart nine and played another spade. West took that trick and led the diamond ace. South, cut off from the dummy, had to lose two club tricks, going down one.