The Mercury News

Readers start the year off right

- Amy Dickinson — We “Clean up” Well Contact Amy Dickinson at askamy@amydickins­on. com.

DEAR R AS RS >> To mark and celebrate the start of a new year, I’m including some recent reader responses that I have found particular­ly touching, wise and useful. I learn so much from my readers!

I sincerely hope that the year 2021 is one of peace, health and goodwill to all. We could all use a break.

S AR AMY >> Your literacy campaign to put “A Book on Every Bed” really touched my heart.

I am a retired teacher of 38 years. The greatest accomplish­ment of my teaching career was reading to my students every day.

The children would immediatel­y quiet down and sit in their seats because they didn’t want to miss a word. It was magical!

The best crowd control and discipline is a good book. I taught special needs children, first, third and fourth grade during my career, and a good book never failed.

I also read to my own three children almost every night through their elementary years. Now that they are in their 30s, they have often said that these were some of their favorite childhood memories.

Thank you so much for raising awareness about the power of books.

— A Life-long

Reader

S AR R AS R >>

Beautiful!

S AR AMY >> Here’s a suggestion for children who feel their parents prefer one of their siblings over them.

I remember as a 13-yearold once telling my dad that I felt that he treated me differentl­y than my younger siblings.

This was his response: “You are absolutely right. I do treat you differentl­y and I realize that sometimes it may seem like I expect more from you than I do your sister or brother. That’s because you have different skills, talents and needs than they do. In some areas, you are stronger and more capable than your siblings, and in other areas your siblings are. And you may not notice when I try to help you through those. But I do not love you any less and you are just as important to me.”

Even more capable, successful and financiall­y comfortabl­e children need to hear that they are equally loved by their parents.

— Loving Daughter (and

Loved) Big Sister

S AR SAUGHT R >>

wise.

Dad was

S AR AMY >> A reader complained about being left to clean up alone after Thanksgivi­ng.

My family handles it in a way that’s fun and fair.

Before dinner, each guest draws a folded piece of paper from a jar with a cleanup chore written on it. There are two identical papers for each job. (Clear table, rinse dishes, put away leftovers, etc.)

When dinner is finished you find the person who has the same job as yourself and complete it together.

Lots of laughing and casual conversati­on takes place over each segment of cleanup. And the person who hosted does NOT set foot in the kitchen until it’s all spick-and-span.

S AR W >>

This is genius.

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ADB Amy

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