Dining etiquette for a large group
Dining out presents an opportunity to socialize with friends and family and enjoy a break from cooking. It also offers a chance to try new cuisines and support local restaurants.
It likely comes as no surprise how popular dining out has become. According to a 2020 study by ICSC, nearly 163 million people (64 percent of adults) dine out at least once a week. Around 50 percent of respondents indicated dining out is an essential part of their lifestyles, and convenience is a prime reason for eating out.
When dining out, individuals may want to share the experience with others. While large groups can have successful outings, making these experiences better for all involved comes down to focusing on etiquette. Here are some do’s and don’ts of dining out with large groups.*
DO make a reservation with the restaurant as far in advance as possible. At the very least, call ahead to see if the establishment takes reservations (some do not) and find out their policies regarding large groups.
DON’T stagger the group’s arrival. Everyone should arrive at the established time for prompt service and to make it easier on the restaurant staff. Wait until your entire party has arrived before asking to be seated.
DO bring cash along, as that makes it easier to divide the bill and the tip among diners.
DON’T ignore the gratuity policies of the restaurant. Certain establishments automatically apply a gratuity to the bill, typically around 18 percent, for large parties. Check the bill for such a gratuity to avoid tipping twice.
DO enlist a person in charge at the table to facilitate ordering and keep the momentum of the meal. This helps keep everyone on track.
DON’T assume that the restaurant can simply add a few more seats for last-minute invitations. Keep the restaurant apprised if someone needs to be added or removed from the reservation. Consider giving a final head count and confirm the reservation the day before.
DO find out if the restaurant offers a partypricing deal. If your crowd is large, it may make things easier to limit offerings to a set fixed-price party menu. This way everyone knows ahead of time they can expect to pay $30 a head or whatever the cost is before added beverages.
DON’T forget to discuss how the bill will be divided. Some people may be amenable to splitting costs evenly. However, if someone orders filet mignon and another orders a small salad, the cost disparity is significant. Be up front with the server regarding whether you’ll need separate checks.
Dining out with a crowd can be an enjoyable experience. Keep courtesy in mind at all times.