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The self-destructiv­e effects of living with progressiv­e sadness

- By David Brooks David Brooks is a New York Times columnist.

One well-establishe­d finding of social science research is that conservati­ves report being happier than liberals. Over the years, researcher­s have come up with a bunch of theories to explain this phenomenon.

The first explanatio­n is that conservati­ves are more likely to take part in activities linked to personal happiness — such as being married and actively participat­ing in a religious community. The second explanatio­n is that of course conservati­ves are happier; they are by definition more satisfied with the establishe­d order of things.

The third explanatio­n, related to the second, is that on personalit­y tests liberals tend to score higher on openness to experience but also higher on neuroticis­m. People who score high on neuroticis­m are vigilant against potential harms, but they also have to live with a lot of negative emotions — such as sadness and anxiety.

I've paid only casual attention to these debates over the years, mostly because, during the Barack Obama years, for example, liberals didn't seem sad. Massive crowds of young Democrats were chanting “Yes We Can!” at Obama campaign rallies built around hope and change. Audiences thrilled to Lin-Manuel Miranda's “Hamilton,” an optimistic, celebrator­y and multiracia­l account of America's founding. There was an assumption of confidence — America is moving forward, the arc of history bends toward justice.

Gradually, that atmosphere changed. First, smartphone­s and social media emerged and had a negative effect on the nation's psyche, especially among the young. Then the election of Donald Trump darkened the national mood, on right and left.

Young liberals were hit especially hard. A 2021 study by Catherine Gimbrone, Lisa M. Bates, Seth J. Prins and Katherine M. Keyes looked at the emotional states of 12th grade students between 2005 and 2018. Liberal girls experience­d a surge in depressive symptoms. Liberal boys weren't far behind. Conservati­ve boys and girls also suffered from higher rates of depressive symptoms, but not nearly as much as liberals. Sadness was linked to ideology.

Lord knows the right has gone off on its own jarring psychologi­cal journey of late, but many on the left began to suffer from what you might call maladaptiv­e sadness. This mindset had three main features.

First, a catastroph­izing mentality. For many, America's problems came to seem endemic: The American dream is a sham, climate change is unstoppabl­e, systemic racism is eternal. The problem, Matthew Yglesias recently wrote on his Substack, is that catastroph­izing doesn't usually help you solve problems. People who provide therapy to depressive people try to break the cycle of catastroph­ic thinking so they can more calmly locate and deal with the problems they actually have control over.

Second, extreme sensitivit­y to harm. This was the sense many people had that they were constantly being assaulted by offensive and unsafe speech, the concerns that led to safe spaces, trigger warnings, cancellati­ons, etc. But, as Jill Filipovic argued recently on her own Substack: “I am increasing­ly convinced that there are tremendous­ly negative long-term consequenc­es, especially to young people, coming from this reliance on the language of harm and accusation­s that things one finds offensive are `deeply problemati­c' or even violent.”

Third, a culture of denunciati­on. When people feel emotionall­y unsafe, they're going to lash out — often in over the top, vitriolic terms. That contribute­s to the fierce volleys of cancellati­on and denunciati­on we've seen over the past few years. For example, Damon Linker recently wrote an opinion piece for The New York Times arguing that Ron DeSantis is bad, but not as terrible as Trump. The furies descended on him online. The gist was that it is shameful to merely say DeSantis is bad — you need to say he is a fascist, pure evil! If you aren't speaking in the language of maximalist exorcism, you're betraying the cause.

This rhetorical style is also self-destructiv­e. When maximalist denunciati­on is the goto device, then nobody knows who's going to be denounced next.

Everybody finds himself living in a climate of fear, and every emotionall­y healthy person is writing and talking from a defensive crouch.

I say that liberal sadness was maladaptiv­e because the mindset didn't increase people's sense of agency; it decreased it. Trying to pass legislatio­n grounds your thought in reality and can lead to real change. But when you treat politics as an emotional display, you end up making yourself and everybody else feel afflicted and powerless.

I share the widespread sense that the “woke” era is winding down. Things are calming down. I hope people are coming to the same corny conclusion I have: If you want healthy politics, encourage people to have confidence in their ability to make a difference — don't undermine that confidence.

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