Roommate raids the fridge

Dear Annie: I’m a recent college graduate, and I just moved into my first real apartment. I found my current roommate, “Stella,” through a friend of a friend. She is very outgoing and laid-back. My problem is that I think she assumes everyone is as laid-back as she is. This mainly comes up regarding our food. Stella keeps eating all the snacks and drinks I buy for myself. Several times after I’ve gotten home from a long day of work and gone to the fridge to get out leftovers from the night before, I have found the container empty.

I’ve tried bringing this up with her several times by asking, “Hey, have you seen my (missing food item)?” And she always answers as if she did nothing wrong, with something to the effect of, “Oh, yeah, I was hungry, so I dipped into that last night.” She usually follows that up by saying I should feel free to have some of her food. I always polititely decline. I really would prefer that we each just eat our own food. How can I get her to stop doing this?

Refrigerator Robberies

Dear Refrigerator Robberies: Well, you could keep all your food in a refrigerated lockbox, but there are some more practical options. The first is to talk to your roommate. Tell her that it really bothers you when you come home to find your food eaten and that though you appreciate her willingness to share her own food, you’d prefer to stick to your own.

If she were to continue doing this anyway, it would indicate a profound lack of respect for other people’s things — not a great quality for a roommate. You might want to start looking for a new place.

Dear Annie: I have 10 grandchildren, ages 10 to 34, and I have good relationships with all of them. Not one has ever acknowledged the fact that I am a mother, too. I am their mother’s or father’s mother. I’m not alone in wondering why this is. Do their parents not teach them to acknowledge their grandmothers (or grandfathers)? There are a lot of us out here who are retired widows living alone, and it would be nice to be remembered. Sad Grammy

Dear Sad Grammy: A belated happy Mother’s Day to you — and an early happy Father’s Day to all the grandpas out there. To those blessed enough to have grandparents in their lives: Don’t take them for granted. You don’t even need to wait for a holiday to reach out. Call your grandparents today, or send a card “just because.”