Dad wants to see more enthusiasm

Dear Abby: My husband gets very upset when our 4-year-old sons don’t share his enthusiasm over something that excites him. He wants them (and me) to jump up and down or cheer when he’s excited about something. The problem is, he tends to share his news when we’re getting ready for bed or just plain tired. Any suggestions for a compromise, please?

At a Loss in Texas

Dear At A Loss: Explain to your husband that you are “sorry” he’s upset at the lack of enthusiasm he’s receiving when he’s excited about something, but his TIMING is off. It would be helpful if he timed his announcements so they don’t conflict with bedtime, when everyone’s energy level is low.

Dear Abby: My former husband and I have been divorced for more than two years. We had our wedding reception in a club with live music, and we would go there every Saturday night to listen to the music. We were divorced shortly after our marriage because he had frequent violent outbursts. After our divorce, he called and asked if we could have a date night. When I went out with him, it was great.

My ex had serious surgery, which I helped him through, but because of a subsequent violent episode from him, I have now severed all ties with him. I’d like to go back and listen to the musicians, but I don’t know what to say when they ask me where he is.

Uncertain Music Lover

Dear Music Lover: All you need to say is, “’John’ and

I are no longer a couple, so you won’t be seeing him with me anymore. I may have split with my husband, but I haven’t fallen out of love with your music.”

Dear Abby: My grandparents have been very generous. They provided for me in ways my parents could not. They allowed me to take music lessons and vacations, let me travel with them and paid for my higher education. They also started an investment fund for me.

Now I’m married, we are financially stable and obtaining financial counseling, and we have decided to place those funds in a different form of investment. The rub is that Grandma objects to any changes to these gifts and puts pressure on us. How do I thank her for her generosity and let her know we are handling our finances now?

Cutting the Apron Strings

Dear Cutting: Start by telling your grandmother again how grateful you are for everything she has provided these many years. Explain to her what your investment plans are for the money that has accumulated, and your reasons for wanting to change. If she has concerns, hear them out and suggest she discuss them with the financial adviser you plan to employ, which might put her worries to rest.