Job­less son feels over­worked at home

The News-Times - - ADVICE/GAMES - Jeanne Phillips Write to Dear Abby at P.O. Box 96440, Los An­ge­les, CA 90069 or dear­abby.com

Dear Abby: I am an un­em­ployed (and look­ing) 24-yearold male who is the old­est of four. My three sis­ters are a

20-year-old who has a part­time job and goes to col­lege, a

14-year-old and a 12-year-old. We all live at home with our physi­cian par­ents.

Our long­time clean­ing lady re­cently quit, and my par­ents seem­ingly have no in­ter­est in hir­ing a re­place­ment.

My sis­ters and my father don’t help with the chores be­cause they are seen as ei­ther too young or too busy. At most, they will un­load gro­ceries or as­sist in cook­ing a meal.

My mother en­cour­ages this and does a fair amount of the work her­self, but she has a job, so I’m fre­quently told to han­dle the dishes, cook­ing, pick­ups and drop-offs for af­ter-school ac­tiv­i­ties, garbage and re­cy­cling, gro­ceries, mis­cel­la­neous er­rands and oc­ca­sional child care.

I get no sym­pa­thy or help. My sis­ters don’t even bother to rinse their plates prop­erly. They just leave them piled in the sink for some­one else, and my mother re­cently yelled at me for “giv­ing her at­ti­tude” when I hadn’t said a word.

This si­t­u­a­tion is mak­ing it harder for me to get a job be­cause I’m tired all the time. What should I do?

Over­worked In New York Dear Over­worked: If you want to be some­thing more than an un­paid do­mes­tic worker, you may have to fig­ure out what it will take for you to live on your own — per­haps with a room­mate or two. Even if you don’t find the ideal job, you will be too busy work­ing to do the things you’re be­ing re­quired to do now.

Dear Abby: I am get­ting mar­ried soon. I have ex-co­work­ers I want to be there. I also have long­time friends who still work with me. The prob­lem is they gos­sip at work all the time. I know if they at­tend my wed­ding, there will be trou­ble in my work life and friend­ships.

How can I tell them not to gos­sip at work about who was at my wed­ding or who I ex­cluded? Please help.

Tired Of Gos­sip

Dear Tired: You are fo­cus­ing on the wrong thing. Con­cen­trate on en­joy­ing your spe­cial day. If you are asked af­ter the wed­ding why some­one was ab­sent, re­spond that bud­getary lim­i­ta­tions pre­vented you from in­clud­ing ev­ery­one you would have liked to in­vite.

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