Eating disorder relapses are common
Dear Amy: When I was in my early teens, I had bulimia.
I was 5-foot, 5-inches tall and weighed 79 pounds. I vomited every time I ate.
I am now in my mid-40s. Lately, I can barely keep any food down. I am disgusted to eat food in front of anyone else. I abhor the sound of people eating. If I do eat something, I feel ashamed and cannot control myself from vomiting it up. I am not underweight now, I’m actually overweight. I eat one meal a day and try to keep it down.
I’m not sure if there is any help for people like me. Usually people with these problems are underweight and become hospitalized. Who would consider that I have an eating disorder? Starving and Fat
Dear Starving: Relapses of eating disorders are unfortunately common. Stress, anxiety, work furlough, and isolation related to the pandemic might have been triggers for you.
You may remember this idea from your previous therapy: People trying to recover from an addiction (drinking, smoking, etc.) can succeed by avoiding their trigger.
But we all have to eat to live. You are forced to confront the source of your distress every day.
Any competent physician, disorder specialist, or nutritionist would very easily understand that someone who is currently overweight has a serious eating disorder.
You should see a physician immediately. A medical problem could be the underlying reason for your symptoms. A medical condition or allergy could have also triggered your eating disorder, so you might be dealing with a complex combination of causes and symptoms.
The important thing is for you — as an adult — to use your insight and instincts to bravely confront something that is hard to face. This is the essence of self-care, and the journey should start in your doctor’s office. Be completely honest about your history and your current symptoms, and be open to treatment, including talk therapy.
The National Eating Disorders Helpline offers a variety of ways (phone, text, and “chat”) for you to connect with a volunteer counselor. Check National eating dis or ders.org for more information. You can also text NEDA to a volunteer at Crisis Text Line (741-741), for immediate text support.