The Norwalk Hour

Arrangemen­t complicate­s date offer

- Jeanne Phillips Write to Dear Abby at P.O. Box 96440, Los Angeles, CA 90069 or dearabby.com

Dear Abby: I have this dilemma. I’m a woman in my 40s with a good job, and I’m told I am a good catch. About six months ago, I moved in with a man I will call Peter. It started as a roommate situation, but then became friends with benefits. We have both agreed we are not a couple.

The problem is Peter has a friend, “Reggie.” I like Reggie, and he likes me. We have hung out as a group several times. Reggie has no idea Peter and I are FWBs.

Reggie recently asked me out to dinner as a date. Should I accept the invitation? I mean, it’s just one date. Also, should I mention it to Peter?

F.W.B. In the South

Dear F.W.B.: You and Peter have agreed that you are NOT a couple. Accept Reggie’s offer and be upfront with Peter about it. Peter may have to find another friend with benefits because the sexual aspect of your relationsh­ip with him may be over.

Dear Abby: I have a 22-yearold daughter from my first marriage and a 9-year-old son with my husband of 12 years. My husband is 57, and I just turned 41. I would like to have another baby, mainly because I want my 9-year-old son to have someone to grow up with. We have no other family. It’s just him and girl cousins, ages 9 and 5. Can you please advise me if my husband and I are OK or too old to have one more child?

Considerin­g It in the West

Dear Considerin­g: This is something that should be discussed further with your husband to make sure you are on the same page, and also with your OB-GYN.

IA doctor with a specialty in genetics could be helpful as you gather informatio­n. It is important that you understand what precaution­s might be wise to take before making this decision.

Dear Abby: I care a lot about what friends, family do with their money. Specifical­ly, I promote the benefits of owning a home, but I suspect my efforts to educate them may need a more loving approach. Do I need to be more loving and supportive vs. educating?

Community Helper in Michigan

Dear Helper: People usually have good reasons for renting instead of buying. If you keep repeating your advice and it’s falling on deaf ears, it’s fair to conclude your message isn’t being appreciate­d. You can volunteer to serve as an adviser, but only if these individual­s want to make a change and ask for your help.

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