Bossy older sister wears out welcome
Dear Abby: My older sister moved in with me after she was placed on furlough because of the pandemic. I was resistant to her moving in because she likes to run the show, and I was worried she’d take over. But I wanted to help her save money, so I said yes.
Now it’s like I’m walking on eggshells. After six months she asked if I’d prefer she move in with our parents, and I said yes. Now she’s upset, and my parents are begging me to let her stay because they don’t want to deal with her. What should I do?
Tired Little Sister
Dear Tired: I’ll tell you what NOT to do. Do not relent. Set a date for her to be out and stick to it. It will save your sanity.
Dear Abby: I’m a very hands-on person, recently retired, and I would like to do volunteer work. Sounds simple, right? Well, it seems no one needs volunteers. I have been looking for something, preferably ecological in nature, for two years. But whenever I inquire, I’m flooded with appeals for money. I was hoping you might give me some more ideas.
Broke But Available
Dear Broke: You describe yourself as hands-on with an interest in things that are ecological. Because your efforts are not needed at the organizations you contacted, modify your search.
Would you be interested in helping to keep your neighborhood clean and free of trash? How about teaching a class in ecology at a community center? Would you deliver meals to shut-ins for a while? The options are there. Sample them until you find something to your liking.
Dear Abby: I am a 40-something woman and have been with my partner for four years. I am the mother of three boys; he’s a father of two girls. We live at my house.
Whenever his youngest comes to visit (she’s 16), she insists on his every second of attention. He eats it up. It’s so frustrating. They both ignore the fact that I am here. It’s very upsetting and, I don’t think it’s normal. What about you?
Miffed in Michigan
Dear Miffed: Clearly the girl is starved for her father’s attention. I don’t think you should begrudge it unless her visits last for an extended period. You might be less upset if you use some of that time to pursue interests of your own.