Man’s bisexual past gnaws at woman’s trust

DEAR ABBY » I am a 49-year-old woman who has been in a romantic relationship with a good, caring man for two years. We live together, and he shows me all the time how much he loves me. We have amazing chemistry.

When we first started dating, he told me he was bisexual and had had relationships with men. He has never shown signs of straying, but sometimes I get insecure and wonder if I should take him at his word that he only wants me. Should I trust him?

— Wants to Be Sure in

Rhode Island

DEAR WANTS » This man has been upfront with you. Because someone finds members of both genders attractive does not mean the person is incapable of monogamy. During the last two years, he has given you no reason to believe he is untrustworthy, so take steps to deal with your insecurity.

DEAR ABBY » My son and daughter-in-law — the parents of three minor children — were divorced in 2019. Prior to their divorce, the ex-DIL got pregnant by another man. She has since had a little girl. My dilemma is, do I include the new little girl when they come to visit

Grandma? She is still my grandchildren’s half-sister.

My son is livid that I would even consider including her. How do I deal with this?

— Dilemma in the Midwest

DEAR DILEMMA » You have a loving heart. I assume all the children live together with their mother. To exclude their half-sister would be logistically difficult and cruel to a child who is blameless. You are the only grandmother that child has ever known, so assert your right to self-determination.