For mom rewriting her will, time with her kids is money
I divorced my narcissistic husband after our children were raised. Over the years, I have tried to have a relationship with all of my children and their families. When I asked one of them for a three-day weekend with her children, she texted me saying they all had a lot going on. Then she added, “Maybe next year.” I may not BE here next year! She may never read this, but it doesn’t matter to me if it will help someone who does read it. I have decided to change my will. If I’m not worth my children’s time, they don’t deserve my money. Your thoughts?
Could it be possible that your daughter and her family are actually busy? From your reaction, you appear to have a troubled relationship with this daughter. Rather than disinherit her, try to find out what motivated her to text what she did so fences can be mended. If that’s not possible, you have every right to reallocate your assets.
I have a huge problem with low selfesteem. For most of my life I was ridiculed, teased and bullied, not only by my classmates and co-workers, but also by my own family. It started when I was very young and continued well into my early 30s. (I am 35 now.) Because of this, I find it incredibly difficult to date anyone.
I always seem to find it easier to talk down about myself than to make myself happy. Please help me, Abby. I’m at a loss about what to do.
The seeds of low self-esteem were planted when you were so young you didn’t understand what was being done was a form of abuse. You should seek professional help to overcome it. Please don’t wait.
Prior to meeting me, my husband was in a long-term relationship with a woman, “Karen,” who was also a close friend of his sisters. Their relationship and the friendships ended due to Karen’s behavior. Years passed, and then my husband met me. Now, 10 years later, the sisters have decided to befriend Karen again. This would normally not be an issue, but Karen is invited to all family parties and weddings. It is very uncomfortable for my husband and me, as we feel we don’t have the option to skip these events. I have tried to quietly object, but I’m being painted as “immature.” Please help.
If you prefer not to socialize regularly with Karen, you don’t have to. However, your discomfort with her does not entitle you to insist your sisters-in-law exclude her from all of their parties. Attend the ones you must and send your regrets for the rest.
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