Coppola, Kidman discuss female gaze of ‘The Beguiled’

The intersection of Sofia Coppola and Nicole Kidman didn’t start with “The Beguiled.”

They’d met at parties in passing and had even tried to work together once on a project that fell apart. Coppola loved Kidman’s wicked humor, and Kidman loved Coppola’s cinematic style and vision. So Kidman didn’t hesitate to say yes when Coppola asked her to play the part of Miss Martha, the headmistress of a girls’ school in the Civil War-era South that’s thrown into disarray when they decide to take in a wounded Union soldier, in her retelling of “The Beguiled.”

In fact, the two share more than might meet the eye — both are married to touring musicians, both have daughters around the same age and both have been having an incredible year professionally. Coppola became the first woman in 56 years to win best director at the Cannes Film Festival, and Kidman is enjoying widespread praise of both her film and television work.

The two women gathered recently in Los Angeles to discuss their film, out Friday, the awkwardness of directing a sponge bath, and the reinvigorated support of women in Hollywood.

The remarks have been edited for clarity and brevity.

I think right now I feel like there’s a lot of talk about it with “Wonder Woman” being a big success, that’s really exciting, and with our movie getting attention — it’s a female cast, a female story.

And that it’s seen from the female perspective. I mean, this is very much from the vision of Sof, so that you see the film in terms how the women view it — the female gaze and not some ... It is important. There’s a shift, and there’s definitely some change happening. Is it enough? No. But you know we’re all doing what we can, and we’re fortunate to have the opportunities.

I just didn’t feel like I could do it exactly as I wanted. It’s a big budget, so it becomes a lot about business.

I want to see you do that, though.

I wish I could have done that one. But I decided to do a project that was smaller, that I could really have creative control over every aspect ... Does that make sense?

Absolutely.

Many times. But for an array of reasons. Sometimes it’s because of family . ... There are so many life issues that come into it when you’re working. We both have children, and that’s a big commitment, isn’t it? ... At one point, I think I was pregnant with Sunday, and I was like, “I’m going to give up acting, I’m done. It’s too much. And the baby and that’s it.” And my mom was like, “Don’t do that. Take some time off but don’t give it up.” She said, “Keep your toe in the water” because she said, “You’re going to want that as you get older.” And it’s also healthy, if you have a creative spirit and you’re artistic, there does have to be a place for that.

That’s true, if not it doesn’t get expressed ...

It can manifest in different ways.

When I saw the ending of “Big Little Lies,” I thought there was a similar solidarity . ... I think that is sweet how the women protect each other. And I think that is something about women. Don’t you find that with your friends?

Definitely. They always say there’s a men’s club, but there is definitely a women’s club in terms of the secrets that are held and the way in which we interact. Particularly when you get older, I think your female friends become more and more — I mean, obviously we live longer!

I feel a warmth. I don’t know if that’s the time we’re in or a need for it, but there’s definitely, instead of tearing you down there’s more encouragement and support. I don’t know if that’s real or if I’m just sensing it, but it’s a lovely thing to be a recipient of and to be able to offer it, as well.

There’s more openness to our stories.