The Oklahoman

Many couples still happy together after months of coronaviru­s quarantine, study finds

- By Erin McCarthy

While the stay-at-home orders may be testing people's patience with their significan­t others, most romantic relationsh­ips are surviving and thriving in close quarters.

That's according to a new Monmouth University poll, which found that half of couples in the United States predict they'll come out of this coronaviru­s quarantine with a stronger relationsh­ip.

“It isn't surprising that so many people are satisfied in their relationsh­ip,” Gary Lewandowsk­i, professor of psychology at Monmouth, said in a statement. “Our relationsh­ips are a key source of stability, and when the world feels uncertain, having your partner there to be your rock is assuring.”

As people across the nation enter a third month of stay-at-home orders, cooped-up couples may take comfort in these findings. As the United States was starting to shut down in March, they may have seen discouragi­ng reports out of China, where divorce rates were said to be skyrocketi­ng as the nation came out of its own weeks-long lockdown.

The new study, however, indicates the pandemic may not be as bad for romantic relationsh­ips as originally feared, researcher­s said.

Of the people Monmouth surveyed — who were married, living with a significan­t other, or otherwise in a romantic relationsh­ip — 59% said they were

“extremely satisfied,” while 33% classified themselves as “very satisfied.” Few reported more neutral or negative feelings. Only 4% were “somewhat satisfied” and a measly 1% were “not too or not at all satisfied.”

The “extremely satisfied” percentage was consistent with prepandemi­c polls, researcher­s said, but the “somewhat satisfied” and “not satisfied” responses were cut in half. While married people generally reported greater satisfacti­on with their relationsh­ips during this time, there were no major difference­s by age, race or gender.

The pandemic also hasn't changed the way people behave in their relationsh­ip, the study found. Seven in 10 people said they don't argue with their significan­t other more now than they used to, and 77% said their sex life hasn't changed. According to the research, some said their relationsh­ips have even improved in these areas.

Lewandowsk­i said those findings make sense.

“The extra demands on the relationsh­ip from managing work-life balance, home-schooling kids, and generally dealing with a global pandemic are balanced out by more quality time with the ones we love,” he said. “A couple steps back, another few forward, leaving us very close to where we started.”

While about a quarter of people said their relationsh­ip adds to the daily stress of living through a global pandemic, most people are optimistic about how the experience will affect the long-term success of their union. Similar poll results were reported after 9/11, Lewandowsk­i said.

That optimism is a promising sign, researcher­s said.

“Although the results likely represent some overconfid­ence by respondent­s, research shows that optimism benefits relationsh­ips,” he said. “In fact, as long as couples have at least one optimist, both partners enjoy higher relationsh­ip satisfacti­on, even when one partner is less hopeful.”

The poll was conducted from April 30 to May 4 with 808 adults in the U.S., and the results are based on the responses of the 556 respondent­s who said they were in a relationsh­ip.

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