The Oneida Daily Dispatch (Oneida, NY)

Are young couples these days going too far with PDA?

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DEAR ANNIE >> Am I turning into a curmudgeon as I get older, or are couples today way more comfortabl­e being physical in public? I recently went to a concert with my husband, something I’d been looking forward to for weeks. But I couldn’t concentrat­e on what was happening on the stage.

That’s because seated next to us were a young couple, probably in their early 20s, putting on quite another kind of show — tongues down each other’s throat, hands all over the place.

If this had just been a brief moment of PDA, I wouldn’t have cared. But they behaved that way for the entire hourlong concert, barely even looking at the stage.

I had to wonder why they’d even bothered to go out. I tried shooting them some death glares, but they didn’t notice. (Go figure.)

My husband thought it was inappropri­ate, too, but he told me I was letting it bother me too much.

He’s good at tuning things out. He also said we probably did similar things when we were their age.

I told him that if he did anything similar to that in public, it certainly wasn’t with me.

Annie, what do you think? Do I need to loosen up?

— Grossed Out

DEAR GROSSED >> You don’t need to loosen up. They need to settle down. I’m not totally against couples showing affection in public, of course.

A brief peck on the cheek or lips? Aw. But tongues and wandering hands? Ew.

Couples who are guilty of the latter: It’s wonderful that you’re so enthusiast­ic about each other.

But for all of our sakes, please, save it for home.

DEAR ANNIE >> This week is National Eating Disorders Awareness Week. People often think that only women suffer from eating disorders, but in reality, eating disorders and body dissatisfa­ction do not have any biases — gender, ethnicity, income level or age.

They affect people of all walks of life. Eating disorders are real medical conditions that require treatment.

In fact, eating disorders have the highest rate of mortality of any mental illness, but of the 30 million men and women who will suffer from a clinically significan­t eating disorder during their lifetime, only a tenth will seek treatment.

As someone who works to raise awareness about eating disorders, I want people to know that there are free and anonymous eating disorder screenings available for the public at www.mybodyscre­ening.org.

People who complete a screening are provided with local resources and can take the first step toward healing.

Treatment works. I hope those in need or their loved ones will take this screening. It’s time to talk about it! — Massachuse­tts

Advocate DEAR MASSACHUSE­TTS >> Thank you so much for shedding light on this important issue.

I encourage anyone who is battling an eating disorder to talk to his or her physician about treatment immediatel­y.

Disorders such as an- orexia nervosa and bulimia can cause irreversib­le damage and death. Please don’t wait to get help.

DEAR ANNIE >> I have another take on the answer you gave to “Tired of Boring, Never-Ending Chatter,” who was peeved because a friend interrupte­d his telling a story.

When someone butts in to the middle of a conversati­on and just goes on and on about whatever he or she can think to talk about, it could be a hearing problem.

My mother has bad hearing, and she is constantly cutting me off in the middle of a sentence.

Then she goes on about something no one is even talking about. Tell “Tired” to see whether there is some way to get the hostess to get her hearing checked.

— Frustrated With People Who Don’t Know They Can’t Hear in Texas DEAR FRUSTRATED >> You’re not the only one who wrote in to offer that explanatio­n. It’s a great point.

We are social creatures, and it makes sense that people with undiagnose­d hearing loss would try, however haphazardl­y, to contribute to the conversati­on.

Anyone who notices this sort of behavior in a loved one should encourage him or her to talk to a doctor about hearing tests. Send your questions for Annie Lane to dearannie@creators. com. To find out more about Annie Lane and read features by other Creators Syndicate columnists and cartoonist­s, visit the Creators Syndicate website at www.creators. com.

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