ASTROGRAPH- WEDNESDAY

Get your priorities straight and be deliberate. Much can be accomplished if you channel your energy properly. Opportunities will result from kindness and consideration, not from letting someone take advantage of you or others. Be honest, loyal and determined to do what’s right. LIBRA ( Sept. 23- Oct. 23): Consider the best way to get a job done and get moving. Taking a unique approach will be a learning experience and will leave a lasting impression. SCORPIO ( Oct. 24- Nov. 22): Take a break to gain perspective on something you are trying to accomplish. An emotional situation can be resolved if you do something thoughtful that others will appreciate. SAGITTARIUS ( Nov. 23Dec. 21): Use your strength, knowledge and experience to help you get things done on time. You can ward off a change you oppose by stepping up and taking the reins. CAPRICORN ( Dec. 22- Jan. 19): Put a new spin on the way you treat someone you work or live with to convince him or her to accept, or at least try, the changes you are considering. AQUARIUS ( Jan. 20- Feb. 19): Stick to what you know and can afford. Refuse to let changes that someone else is making disrupt your plans. Say no to a costly joint venture. PISCES ( Feb. 20- March 20): Put all your ideas on the table and consider your best plan of attack. A kind gesture will win favors as well as someone’s heart. A romantic evening will be rewarding. ARIES ( March 21- April 19): Start a dialogue with someone who can help you with the lifestyle changes you want to make. A debate will give you plenty to think about and will help lead you to make a wise choice. TAURUS ( April 20- May 20): An emotional shock is best controlled. Anger will not help and may lead to a change of heart. If you love someone, give him or her space to think matters through. GEMINI ( May 21- June 20): Work hard, play hard and don’t get caught up in what others do. Gossip could lead to a costly mistake that will disrupt your relationship with someone in charge. CANCER ( June 21- July 22): How you approach others will make a difference. Use your imagination and charm to attract someone you’d like to do business with or get to know better. LEO ( July 23- Aug. 22): Say what’s on your mind and discuss your intentions and plans with others. It’s best to have approval before starting something so you can avoid setbacks. VIRGO ( Aug. 23- Sept. 22): A change at home or to your lifestyle will lead to interesting developments. Children and people from your past will offer intriguing alternatives. DEAR ANNIE >> I started dating this wonderful man. It was a perfect courtship, with the exception of some minor troubledteen issues in his life — we both have teenagers — that he was working on but didn’t tell me much about. We dated happily with no issues whatsoever for three months. Then one day, just after he took me to meet his entire family and told me how happy he was with me in his life, he texted me that there had been a huge blowup on the teen front and he might be MIA for a few weeks to deal with the issue. He wouldn’t tell me what happened, other than that his son was getting kicked out of school. He also said there was some court issue, as well. I knew that his 17- year- old son had been in trouble with the law once already.

In his next text, he told me that he was sorry he had started our relationship and was not able to finish it. He said that he had to “put it on the back burner” and that I should not wait for him. I texted back that I couldn’t believe he would break up with me via a text. He said, “No, sweetie, it’s not like that.” He said he had much bigger issues to deal with.

I recently wrote him a loving letter, saying that I understand he is going through some issues and leaving the door open for him to return if he wants to. He texted me to say he hopes we can connect soon, but I don’t feel any hope whatsoever.

Do you think this is normal for a man who seemed to be in love to just leave and break it off, not attempting to keep his partner in his life at all? If so, should I wait or hope for him to come back to me? DEAR PUT ON THE BACK BURNER >> It sounds as if the honeymoon is over. His true colors are shining through, and they don’t look very bright. If you are planning to wait for this man, it’s a pretty safe bet that you will be waiting a long time. Even if he does come back into your life, why would you want him?

Life is always going to have ups and downs, and what I am hearing from him is that during difficult times, he does not want to share them with you and would rather put you on the back burner. That’s not how a healthy, loving, supportive relationship works.

Save your energy for a man who appreciates your love and wants to keep your relationship on the front burner dur- ing good times and bad. That is my hope for you. DEAR ANNIE >> I was appalled reading the letter from “Help,” the woman whose neighbor said he would be putting his dog’s waste in a compost pile bordering her property. What a no- no from a nitwit. Anyone who uses compost knows you don’t put cat or dog excrement in it. You wouldn’t want it used on your veggies, nor would you want to touch it with your bare hands. The spread of cytomegalovirus, among other nasties, should be avoided. He was just being lazy or annoying. If it continues, the health department should also be notified. DEAR COMPOST CREATOR >> That takes the situation from disgusting to dangerous. I’m printing your letter in the service of public health.

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