Thanks for the memories, on Memorial Day and every day
Nearly two decades ago when I started working here at Brittany Pointe, I had no clue as to the wonders which awaited me. I signed on because, frankly, I needed the money and benefits. I had a vague memory that years earlier, my dad, after researching retirement communities, decided that Brittany Pointe was the best one for himself and my mom. That was good enough for me.
I had no idea of the treasure I would find here.
No, not physical treasure, it was more than that. In those days we still had many residents who had been involved in World War II in one way or another. Some served, others cared for families while the spouses were away, and still others had family members in all branches of the service. I confess I did not know too much about WWII, nor did I realize the depths of sacrifice that had been made by so many during that time.
No, I had no inkling of what lay ahead for me. I had taken a job working with “old people” to make ends meet. But each day, more and more, I learned so much from this group, members of “The Greatest Generation.” Little by little I got to know them as individuals, not as a demographic. I got to hear their stories, and the stories of their families. I became fascinated.
That quiet little old man over there? He was a Carrier Attack Pilot on an aircraft carrier, serving two tours in WWII and also Korea, and reached the rank of Captain. One day he was being honored by Fox News during a special DDay commemoration ceremony, and I watched as he was interviewed. He was a humble man, dignified and well-spoken. The host asked why he was hesitant to talk about his great achievements and experiences during the war. I’ll never forget his reply: “A lot of my friends never made it back. It’s hard to talk about.”
He was not alone in that sentiment. Other WWII veterans stumbled over their words when talking about friends or family members who did not make it back home.
I think of his statement often, especially around Memorial Day weekend. Yes, those who made it back are heroes, and we can never thank them enough for what they did, the sacrifices they made. But Memorial Day weekend is a time to remember those who made the ultimate sacrifice. We remember their bravery, and the part they played in creating a better world for us. One needs only to take a glimpse of Arlington National Cemetery (to name one of many resting places) to know that we have many, many heroes to thank. It is indeed humbling.
Memories are funny things. They can make you laugh and cry at the same time. It’s always good to think about the happy memories, especially memories of those who are no longer with us. The more we celebrate our loved ones, the more they are alive within each of us.
The happier the memories, the more we feel their love.
I truly hope you enjoyed this past Memorial Day weekend (and every day). Perhaps you had gettogethers with your loved ones, barbecues, celebrations, even perhaps a minivacation to the beach — all wonderful ways to enjoy life, a life of freedom that was forged by many brave souls who came before us.
As you remember the fun you may have had, I just hope you will toss a quiet “thank you” to those who made it all possible. And never forget or take for granted or misconstrue the freedoms for which they fought. And never take a moment for granted. In this topsyturvy world, anything can happen. Hug your family members tight and remind them that you love them.
One of my favorite quotes is “Be the change you want to see in the world.” Now more than ever, that is true. Though this quote is often attributed to Mahatma Gandhi, there is actually no
written documentation to support that. However, the sentiment is quite in keeping with his teachings and writings. In any case, this seems a very fitting time to adhere to this philosophy.
Do you want kindness in your world? Be kind. Do you want a loving environment? Give love. Do you long for understanding? Do your best to understand others, embracing the differences between you. Do you want peace? Connect with your fellow human beings with compassion. The more than unites us, the less that can divide us.
Memories — we cling to them every day, not just on Memorial Day. May we treasure them always and hold them dear. Never forget those who provided them. And do the best to live each moment to the fullest. Remember, some day you will be a memory to someone else. Make it a good one!