Mother is not always right

Dear Annie: My mom came to visit from out of state. We’ve always had a strained relationship. While she was here, she made a big deal about the fact that I wash my dishes with bristled brushes and not dishcloths. I explained that dishcloths harbor bacteria and that bristled brushes are more environmentally friendly than cloths and sponges. She offered to go to the store to buy me some dishcloths. I explained that my limited supply was because of my personal wishes and not monetary reasons and that I would not use them if she bought them. So she didn’t.

My Christmas present includes dishcloths. I am very annoyed, as I feel she couldn’t care less about my feelings. Should I let her know my feelings on the subject or let it slide?

Mother Doesn’t Always Know

Best Dear MDAKB: Bristled brushes are the most hygienic choice. They dry quickly and are easy to clean. So you’re right.

I could tell you to talk to her, but realistically, she’s probably going to keep “sending you dishcloths” in one form or another. All you can change is how you receive them. Accept it at face value and say thank you. Dear Annie: It’s a fact that when a nursing replacement doesn’t report to work, the person who has just worked an eight-hour shift is required to stay. Additionally, a nurse must request a vacation well in advance, and the vacation can be canceled at the last minute.

I am concerned for the well-being of dedicated nurses and for the future of nursing. I’m concerned for patients. Nurses who would normally be friendly, compassionate and caring can become tired and grouchy. Everyone needs some down time. Worried in Wisconsin

Dear Worried: I agree. Nurses work hard, long hours, in a role that is physically and emotionally draining. Countless studies have shown the adverse effects. In pursuit of better hours and conditions, many nurses have chosen to unionize. Though this might not be for everyone, it’s worth considering. A Nurse.org article titled “Should I Join A Nurses Union? Pros And Cons” is a good primer.

Additionally, the American Nurses Association (http:// nursingworld.org) offers fact sheets about staying healthy as a nurse.