Jets’ Harrison overcame years of bullying to achieve dreams
FLORHAM PARK, N.J. >> Jonotthan Harrison has not forgotten a single punch or kick, the brutal pushing and shoving, the sudden tackles to the ground with his classmates piling on top of him.
There was also the constant and flat-out mean name calling. And all the laughing. So much laughing — at his expense.
The New York Jets center endured years of bullying while growing up in central Florida, but refused to let those painful moments stop him from achieving his goals.
“I can get along with anybody,” Harrison said in an interview with The Associated Press. “But for whatever reason, people found me to be an easy target to mess with, pick on or whatever, whether they thought it was playful or not.”
The 6-foot-4, 300-pound Harrison hardly looks like the type of guy anyone would dare mess with.
From fifth grade through high school, though, it was a different story — one he often shares in schools on days off from practice to bring awareness to bullying and try to prevent it from happening to other youngsters.
“It was a journey and I realized toward the end of high school that it kind of toughened me up on the inside,” the 27-year-old Harrison said. “You know, if I could go through all that and still come out on top, so to speak, all those people that bullied me and did whatever, they’re still in my hometown. They haven’t done anything with their lives, so now I’m very thankful for my parents’ guidance growing up and for where it’s helped me get to.”
Harrison’s mother Jennifer and stepfather Robert Vorasky were travel nurses when he was young, so the family often bounced around south Florida. When Harrison reached fifth grade, his parents bought a home in the city of Mascotte in Lake County, Florida, with the intentions of providing stability.
But Harrison quickly realized he was in for some major challenges.
“I was the only person of my color in my class and they didn’t throw racial slurs at me, but coincidentally, we’d go out to recess and everyone would gang up on me on the soccer field,” he recalled. “They would trip me, they’d throw the ball at me. Me being an only child, I didn’t have any siblings to talk to, didn’t have any siblings to toughen me up or anything like that. So, there were times I’d go home emotional to my mom.
“It sounds bad, but it is what it is.”
In middle school, Harrison tipped the scales at more than 200 pounds, so he exceeded the weight limit to join athletic teams. Instead, he discovered the school band and played the guitar and French horn. He was pretty good at both, too, but that didn’t matter to some of the school’s jocks.
“It was like, ‘Oh, here’s this ‘big, squishy kid,’ let’s tackle him and let’s pick on him a little bit,’” Harrison said. “So, on my way to lunch, I’d get tackled every single day. My books would go flying, I’d get scraped up, my shirt ripped up, whatever.
“Everybody would just laugh, and I’d just pick myself up and keep going.”
At South Lake High School, it was more of the same. Some kids also came up with an undesirable nickname: “Big Baby.”
“They would say, ‘Oh, you’re just like a big baby,’” Harrison said. “It kind of stuck with me all the way through college, but it was a different ‘Big Baby’ at that point. I eventually became like a cool ‘Big Baby,’ but at the time, it was belittling and all I wanted to do was fit in.”
Harrison would share some stories with his parents, but his mother would occasionally hear from his friends about other troubles with which her son was dealing.
“He didn’t want to hurt me,” Jennifer Harrison said in a telephone interview. “He didn’t want to see my pain, too, because I think he realized it made me so sad when he was hurting, too.”
She would frequently address Jonotthan’s issues with his teachers and school officials. At home, she provided her son comfort — and valuable advice.
“Be greater than your enemies,” Harrison recalled her telling him. “Don’t stoop down to their level. You could really hurt somebody if you retaliated because you’re 200-plus pounds and they’re still under 200 pounds.”
Jennifer Harrison acknowledged it was tough to ask her son to not retaliate. She knew it frustrated him, but she made it clear she understood what he was going through.
“I told him, if you fight back, you would just be fueling the fire that these kids are trying to spark in you,” she said, “and you don’t want that.”
Instead, Harrison kept brushing himself off and moving forward.
He joined the football team in high school and became a star offensive lineman. That paved his way to a scholarship to the University of Florida.
“I honestly believe that is one of the things that motivated him to be such a good football player,” Jennifer Harrison said. “That was his license to hit back. Maybe some good came out of it in that way. I saw his passion in football and I just said, ‘Wow, he’s finally able to hit back legitimately,’ and I think that gave him his strength and his oomph in football.”