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weigh the sacrifices. Our careers are certainly important, but the satisfaction we derive from them is not likely to satisfy us in the same was as our connection with our loved ones.
Relationships help us to feel whole.
They produce the context that helps us heal and be authentic. Most importantly, relationships teach us how to love both ourselves and others. When relationships are at their best, they help us overcome our fears, see the truth about ourselves and others, and provide the safe container necessary for us to grow and evolve as people. We all long for this and having high-quality relationships is the best way I know to achieve this goal.
However, high-quality relationships don’t just happen. High quality relationships, like anything worthwhile in life, require both attention and intention. Intention is our conscious, deliberate, and sustained focus on something that eventually brings about a desired result. Intention involves our thoughts and feelings, attention involves our time and effort. Someone once said, “Intention + Attention = Miracles. High quality relationships are truly miraculous, but they require our active involvement in order to be developed and maintained.
Of course, many choose to make their career a priority.
This too is a valid choice, but as with any other choice it has consequences. I strongly recommend you make this choice with as much awareness as possible. Too often we make the choice to put career first thinking that our family and friends will be waiting for us when we retire. Sadly, this is not the case. As I have said before, I believe it is far wiser to have your career support your lifestyle rather than have your lifestyle support your career.
In the end, it comes down to a matter or priorities. Each of us has to make our own choices as to what and who is most important to us. I believe that success involves having our investment of time and energy be congruent with our values.
When it does not, unhappiness and frustration will follow. So, reconsider your priorities now and determine for yourself what success really means to you. Once you are clear on this, then live out your values each day, and watch what happens.
Dr. Raymond Angelini of Hew Horizons Coaching has been in private practice for over 30 years in Saratoga Springs and specializes in assisting individuals in finding and sustaining careers that are more rewarding, lifeenhancing, and in keeping with one’s personal and spiritual values. For more information, pleases feel free to visit Dr Angelini @www.drrayangelini. com or email him at rayangel58@gmail.com.