Do the holidays make you nervous?
Even in the sweetest, most loving family, there are people that can cause a little tension. It could be the family member who tends to say outrageous things for effect, sometimes it is poor choices someone in the family is making, or maybe a particular subject that is totally taboo that you have to talk around. Sometimes it is the struggle to get along with in-laws and the melding of different family cultures.
Whatever the source of stress, there is often greater potential for problems during the holidays because family members are together in greater numbers and for more events.
If the holidays make you nervous, you are not alone. According to one survey by the American Psychological Association, 38% of people surveyed said their stress level increased during the holiday season. Even though the majority of people report high spirits and feelings of happiness and love during the holidays; feelings of fatigue, stress, sadness, irritability and even bloating often run in tandem.
Instead of feeling like you are walking on eggshells or staying nervous and uptight about upcoming family gatherings, here are some suggestions from the Mayo Clinic and the University of Arkansas Cooperative Extension Service for ways to empower yourself to handle stressful situations and bring a little peace of mind to your holidays:
Be realistic. Be careful not to borrow trouble that has not happened. Also, try not to forget that often people’s responses or behaviors are separate from you and maybe they need your understanding. Try to bring a mindset of curiosity to your family gatherings and you may learn something that you never knew before. While you are at it remember to not pressure yourself to be perfect and that your family will not be perfect, either.
Set aside differences. Family members and friends will not always live up to your expectations. Accepting them as they are and showing patience and understanding when things go awry can create goodwill. The holidays are usually not the best time to deal with grievances. Often, your family members are feeling the holiday stress and depression, too.
Learn to say no. If you say yes when you really mean no, you often end up feeling resentful and overwhelmed. People-pleasing is exhausting and usually ends with no one being truly happy. If you are asked to do something that you cannot say no to, then try to remove something else from your agenda to make up for lost time and relieve stress.
Take care of yourself. Keep following your healthy habits throughout the holidays to help you feel good physically and mentally. Overindulgence adds more stress and guilt. Taking care of yourself can also include an exit strategy for toxic situations.
Remember, that you can set the tone for your family and for any holiday gatherings in your home. If you would like more tips for keeping your holidays healthy mentally and physically, contact the Garland County Extension Service at 501-623-6841. Follow us on Facebook @GarlandExtensionHomeLife or email acrane@uada.edu
4-H information
There are several 4-H Clubs for Garland County youths who are 5 to 19 years old. For more information on all the fun 4-H activities that are available, call Carol Ann McAfee at the Extension Office, 501-623-6841, or email her at cmafee@uada.edu.
Master Gardener information
Master Gardener meetings are held on the third Thursday of each month at the Elks Lodge. Meetings are open to the public and guests are welcome. Call the Extension Office at 501-623-6841 for more information.
EHC information
Interested in joining an existing Extension Homemakers Club? EHC is the largest volunteer organization in the state. For more information on EHC, call Alison Crane, family and consumer sciences agent, at 501-623-6841 or email her at acrane@uada.edu.