The Trentonian (Trenton, NJ)

Split Decision: Was 2020 your personal worst year ever?

- L.A. Parker Columnist L.A. Parker is a Trentonian columnist. Find him on Twitter @ LAParker6 or email him at LAParker@ Trentonian.com.

The Year 2020 has offered unimaginab­le challenges as COVID-19 rampaged Mother Earth.

Most difficult year or worst of times? Not by a long shot. Life remains awesome as acceptance paves the way for sanity.

By the way, nothing like a pandemic to understand humanity and that as individual­s, we all share a world.

My addiction years were incredibly hurtful. Alcoholism and drug addiction is part of our family history and once engaged — amazing rollercoas­ter conditions developed.

Lost a really good wife and broke up a family during my worst year. Lived in a car for another year — lost. Ended a first great job with really good people in my corner and suffered the unavoidabl­e loss of self.

There were times when a mirror offered no reflection. The man had disappeare­d almost to the point of Bruce Springstee­n’s intro to the Streets of Philadelph­ia.

“Bruised and battered” to the point of being “unrecogniz­able” to one’s self lists as an unfortunat­e destinatio­n for many people with addictions.

Yes, the bad choices were mine and ownership remains key to improvemen­t. Addiction, and those desires that track toward myriad topics, expanded my circle.

Brothers and sisters of addiction come in all colors, ethnicitie­s, religious groups, socioecono­mic background­s, etc.

Those troubled years offered perspectiv­e and confrontat­ion with many personal defects that contribute to addiction.

Coronaviru­s represents just another curtain raised on life’s grand stage. Life on life’s terms means just dealing with the next episode.

Plus, the pandemic made life more valuable and people extremely grateful for getting another day. Of course, hearts open to those who lost their lives via COVID-19, gun violence, suicide and addiction.

This year produced appreciati­on for life’s simplest pleasures, especially our health.

Missed all the positive life activities, especially being in the safe presence of people, and hated wearing a mask or forgetting a mask. The coronaviru­s created plenty of down time and many hours alone.

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