A better way

Acknowledge the problem Solomon, the wise king of Israel, declared, “Don’t expect anyone else to fully understand both the bitterness and joys of all you experience in your life,” Proverbs 14:10. Admitting bitterness is the first step to getting rid of it. Saying, “Yes, I am bitter about that” is reality and potential for change.

Stop feeding the problem

Victim thinking perpetuates a victim lifestyle. Paul, the great teacher, scholar, author and administrator, gives valuable perspective. “Keep your thoughts fixed on all that is authentic and real, honorable and admirable, beautiful and respectful, pure and holy, merciful and kind,” Philippians 4:8.

Stop making excuses for what happened

The past cannot be changed. It is possible to make life better. Attitude determines atmosphere. It is what it is! It is not what it will be because an atmosphere of “better” is maintained.

Release yourself from offense

Releasing others of their offenses, realized or perceived, opens the door of freedom. Forgiveness extended before it is asked for releases the offended, even though the offender never asked for forgiveness. The offended party possesses the key to their release. It is forgiveness.

Make good happen

Move on! It happened. It was a part of the past. The event can make one better, not bitter. Being the recipient of lemons is real. The sour, bitter experience is an opportunity for something good to happen. The lemons of life can be made into lemonade. Admission, action, attitude, acquittal, and adjustment is hope that helps.

The Rev. Paul Killingsworth serves as pastor at Yuma First Assembly.