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Why are marriages of nowadays not lasting. The following are comments from our online edition:

Nancy Prisháàn’s Mum: Guys, there is no such thing as marrying for the wrong reasons. Every reason to marry is correct according to the hearts convictions on the day one decides to say I DO. Remember that even those that married purely for love get divorced. Because even love itself can fail once other cardinal factors chip in. On the other hand, what can be declared wrong or right is REASON to stay or leave that marriage.

Simon CM: We have discarded our culture and embraced a “fantasy of a culture” which we see on TV. Most people are getting married for prestige, beauty, money, age pressure e.t.c. without understanding the fundamental principles of marriage such as union, love, submission, trust, raising children together and many more.

Kingsley Mwape Maseya: I went to my very own school of love, I taught myself how to love, I know who I love and when I can say I love so all the lessons from people and marriage counsellors are not meant for someone like me. So misleading lessons sometimes.

Chrispin Tembo: True love ended with our parents.. Now its money and sex.... I stand to be corrected beyond any reasonable doubt.

Chiti J. Nkunde: Because of fighting for equality. Wanting to be on the same level. You can do this and I can do this also after all. Forgetting that we are not built for the same purposes. Forgetting that our jobs and responsibilities are different, and our bodies too. Wanting our partners to be like us instead of like they are. Trying to change your partner to suit someone or something you consider perfect for you.

Denny Sobana: Absolutely!!! Very high

expectations...

Harry Shiompa: If I stand to be corrected, the problem mainly lies with our women who go into marriage with a lot of expectations such as being financially well off. And when things go to the contrary, expectations not met, then one experiences lack of respect in a home, which later leads to divorce. Unconditional love, care and respect which were there then, are no longer there since most women think love is tied to money, for them to show off with the latest fashions etc. No wonder a man with money can date as many women as possible and that does not bother them as long as they have a share. Hence divas and slay queens.

Francis Masauso Takondwa Ndalama:

We have discarded the value of marriage.

David M Bwalya: People are obsessed with having a perfect wedding and honeymoon! They forget to build a strong foundation for their marriage because they over look the importance of courtship. How do you settle with someone you have only known for less than a year? Sometimes it’s love but mostly it’s fondness

Francis Dru Mulako: Infidelity, love of money and materials and trust issues. Western culture has diluted our traditional beliefs and customs. If our leadership doesn’t also address this issue, we shall lose all family values and our kids will be the real victims...

Neto Chitindi: It’s because couples are spending more on the wedding just to impress friends that they had a colourful wedding.

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