Stay away from married people

IT is important for both men and women to discipline themselves and stick to their marriage vows.

Marriage vows clearly state that the two individuals are entering into a contract that can only be undone by death. They are to love each other through the good times and the bad, in sickness and in health . . . until death does them part.

Such is the contract one has to live under when they enter into marriage.

And since they sign that contract without being forced, and make the vows on their own, they ought to stick to the permutations of the said contract.

But more than that, people outside this marriage also ought to respect the vows two people would have undertaken to enter into marriage. If you respect marriage you do not approach a married person with a view to having an affair with them.

Those that do something so dishonourable must pay and the law must punish them accordingly.

Almost on a daily basis the media carries stories of marriages that turn nasty after a mate cheats on their spouse.

While many will try to give their explanations as to why they cheated, the fact is there is just no excuse for adultery and it not only destroys marriages but also puts the innocent partners at risk of contracting HIV.

It is difficult to live with a husband that indulges in sexual activity with other women.

It is difficult to live with a woman who has sex outside marriage.

And when the person who comes between married people is a friend, neighbour or brother, the effect and pain is even more difficult to bear.

When school-going girls or boys interfere in marriages without shame or fear and have relations with married people, they are creating a monster that will haunt them when they get married tomorrow.

They take pride in being called names like small house or side chick and being promised marriage and give away their virginity because of petty gifts like cellphones and phone credit, skinny jeans and movie tickets.

Those that do something so dishonourable must change their ways and respect the sanctity of marriage and themselves.

It is disheartening to find people trying to justify adultery or trying to create situations under which adultery can be permissible.

People must start respecting marriage and treating it as a lifelong commitment that should only be broken by death.

While having problems is normal in marriage, adultery should never be a solution.

People must be willing to fight hard to solve whatever differences may occur during the course of their marriages.