Being disappointed does not mean the end of life
THERE are times in life when you find someone crying and wishing she could just die because she would have been unexpectingly disappointed. “Talk of leaving a room for disappointment,” like really? It is unfortunate I do not even have time for offering tissue or console individuals who find themselves in such a space. No, why would you wish to die for someone who does not really love you. Truth be told, wherever there is love, one day somewhere somehow there will be a heartbreak.
If you have been disappointed in whatever way, cry and get over it without wishing or contemplating ending your life. Life being a journey, you met, walked together for a certain distance and most probably you enjoyed it while it lasted, now that someone has chosen to make a U-turn does not mean the end of the road for you. Just pick up the pieces, if you do not have crazy friends who can help you laugh over it, then cry and get over it.
Men can be a disappointment! Less can be said about women. When you are in a relationship, only a few people expect a heartbreak, otherwise the rest think of lifetime relationships of which that’s the objective, where only death will mark the end. Unfortunately, real life issues are not like that. You will be loved, pampered and so on, even to the extent where you almost lose your mind. Life, as humans we struggle to define and sometimes understand it, thus one day it can happen that the same person who made you the happiest on earth turns around and stabs you in the heart.
The number of years you have spent with someone is nothing but just a number. You hear a person trying to justify why they are crying over someone because of years they have spent together. Instead I believe one should not concentrate on that, but be grateful for not having wasted more years on a person who does not even deserve their love or have an insightful future. In the latest blockbuster movie Ghost in a shell, starring Scarlett Johansson, one of her colleagues in a drive to encourage her says “We cling to our memories as if they define us, but what we do defines us.” It’s therefore imperative to let go of old memories and focus on thoughts which are more of a campus towards a new destiny that fate would have thrown at our feet.
An end of a relationship shouldn’t by any chance be equated to life coming to a halt. The wise say, “Do not cry over the past, it is gone. Do not stress about the future, it hasn’t arrived. Live in the present and make it beautiful.” You know, a relationship does not come to an end over a night, but usually it’s a series of events. At first you get surprised then get used to it, but eventually at one point it becomes enough. This shows that by the time it reaches its peak, you will already be strong enough to face the future.
If you show someone that you cannot live without him or he is the reason for your survival, then definitely he will jump over your head. If you are hurting, show it and then it will be up to him whether he corrects the mistake or makes sure that you stay in pain because of his actions. Truth be told, a person who loves you tries at all costs to keep you happy. If he has been hurting you and finally you part ways, I guess you deserve to even throw a party as that marks the beginning of your happy days.
Never be made to believe that love is about luck, but it is all about the right person. People who believe in luck when it comes to love usually have a series of heartbreaks. If the last one never worked, put your head up and empower yourself then along the way you might meet the right person who makes you happy and completes you. Now that you have been disappointed, does not mean the end, there is more to life and that person does not even deserve your attention.
It is sad that some after a heartbreak, instead of concentrating on their own life, start spending a lot of time in stalking their exes. Keeping tabs on what he is doing with who and checking profile pictures hurts out even more. Instead be busy with your own life and do what makes you feel good.
Most men, when a woman whom they have parted ways with shows no sign of hard feelings, become jealous. Do not even be worried, that’s his own baby to deal with. Unfortunately they rush to conclude that you already had a boyfriend that is the reason you are not running after him, but still ignore because you know the truth. Nevertheless at a point of heartbreak, be brave enough to face and deal with it like an adult. Pretending and bottling the pain can yield a serious series of emotional breakdowns.