My hubby rapes me every night!

I DON’T know who to tell this, I have been having sex with my sister’s boyfriend and now I am pregnant. Reply I think that you are a very naive girl, and I also consider your sister’s boyfriend to be a very wicked and conniving man. Your sister trusted you and you betrayed her. This man carefully worked on you. He knew that to have unprotected sex with you may cause pregnancy and that is exactly what happened, but he didn’t care. I suggest that you tell your sister the truth. Your parents and other relatives are going to be very disappointed in you. Your sister may hate you for life, and she may believe that it is you who threw yourself at her man. I wish you well. I hope that I will hear from you again. Hi Sis Noe I have two girlfriends but I only get an erection for one of them. I don’t know what the problem is but I used to be ok. What’s wrong with me? Reply It is evident that you do not really love and care for the other woman but you like to have her around. The one you attain an erection for means more to you and she has more vibes than the other woman. Some people do not realise that much of this thing that is called sex is in the mind and if the mind is not functioning right, sex cannot be enjoyed. Your mind is not with the other woman. Leave her alone. Let her find another man. Hi Sis Noe Whenever I am in the mood for sex my man doesn’t even look at me, I have to wait on him until he wants sex. What should I do? Reply You should know if your man is ignoring you or if he is genuinely tired. You should not be passive. You should take the initiative and do things that would turn him on. It is unfair for a man to ignore his woman when she wants to make love but whenever he is interested she must always be ready. Hi Sis Noe I am 22 years old and my boyfriend is 30. I love him very much. He makes me happy but we don’t really see each other often because of some circumstances. He says he is not cheating and I believe him at times, but sometimes Send your sms to 0773111328 or 0772115830 or write to Sis Noe, Sunday News, Box 585, Bulawayo. You can also follow Sis Noe on http://sisnoe. blogspot.com Please note that Sis Noe is not a medical doctor but an elderly woman who has almost seen it all. She is a mother, grandmother, great-grandmother and aunt to many people. Those that require medical attention please visit the nearest clinic or hospital. Sis Noe is flattered by your confidence in her. Bombard her with social issues/problems — she will be of much help to you.

he gives me reasons to doubt him. I am a very insecure and jealous girlfriend. He recently got a job and I am very happy for him but inside I am not because I feel he is going to meet some other girl out there. Reply If you cannot trust this man the relationship will not work. You have to learn to grow up. Trust, respect and communication are ingredients for a happy relationship. If a couple does not trust each other or respect each other and they don’t communicate the relationship is bound to fail. You say this man has given you reasons not to trust him but you didn’t say what these reasons are. It seems to me that you are immature. You cannot do what so many women try to do and that is to watch their men. And some foolish men try to watch their women, but if a person wants to cheat you could even hire a private detective, it won’t help you. Some women cheat in the kitchen, in the bathroom and in the office to name a few places. If this man loves you, you need not worry. You are afraid that he might see another girl now that he has got a new job. Don’t be silly. Girls would always be around. He will see them and they will see him. Men will always be around. You will see them and they will see you, but that does not mean that a relationship will develop between this man and the girls or between you and the other guys, so stop behaving like a spoilt child who wants her mother for herself. Hi Sis Noe My husband loves his mother too much and is always there for her even for small things. I am not jealous or what but at times I feel it is too much. Reply I think when a man is married he should love his wife but that does not mean that he belongs to his wife totally because had it not been for his mother, his wife would not have him. I like the way your husband treats his mother. Anything he wants to do for his mother or anything he wants to give her you should not get in the way. You should love and respect him for taking care of his mother. You are an unwise wife. You have the wrong attitude and if you continue to frown on everything he does for his mother, he will stop loving you. Hi Sis Noe I don’t want to have sex with my husband but he rapes me almost every night. But he does not see anything wrong with what he does to me. Reply I regret hearing that you are suffering psychologically, physically and emotionally. The man with whom you are living is very abusive. If indeed he has sex with you without your consent, then that is sexual abuse — RAPE. He claims that he is not doing anything wrong, but he needs to understand that he should not do anything that you do not love or consent to. If the marriage has broken down then what you need to do is to leave him as soon as possible. Report him to the police if he is threatening to harm you if you leave him. Hi Sis Noe My wife does not trust me. Her sister is having financial issues and is asking to stay with us until she recovers but my wife does not want because she thinks I will sleep with her sister because she is very friendly to me. I don’t know maybe it’s because I took her from another guy and she thinks I am still that kind of man. Reply Your wife knows that you are a charmer. When you met her she had a boyfriend and you snatched her away from him and convinced her to cheat on her boyfriend. She feels that if you were able to cause her to cheat you would do the same to her sister, so she does not trust you, period. And that is very unfortunate because her sister is being denied a place to stay. Your wife believes what you have in your pants is going to put you in trouble and her sister is already flirty. It is not only you that she does not trust. It is also her sister. Seriously speaking, I think your wife is being ridiculous. You would be crazy to have a sexual relationship with her. That just doesn’t make sense. I could be wrong but I do believe that there is more to it than what she is saying.