‘I want him as my boyfriend’
FROM My Heart is a platform created for you to share your issues and get practical assistance. Together we can create brighter lives and happier people, transforming mindsets one day at a time. Send your heart to heart message to Tete Barbara and read her responses.
Rural boy with big dreams Dear Tete
I am a 16-year-old boy living in the rural areas of Marange. When I get an opportunity, I read old newspapers that my teacher brings from the city. There are many stories in there about the great things that are being done by the city youths. I am encouraged to try my best even though I do not have access to most of the facilities that they have. Maybe one day I will also appear in the newspaper.
Tete Responds:
Never allow your environment to restrict you from growing and dreaming big. You clearly desire to become something big in life . . . keep the fire burning. It is correct to say that youths are doing a lot in terms of development. Just remember you are also in that category. Just ignite your flame and join the trek. Join debate groups, play sport, carry out clean-up campaigns and combine all of this with your studies and you will be great. Discover your talents, work hard and be of good character and you will see great things in life.
All The Best
My wife must pay the bills Dear Tete
My wife and I are both employed as teachers. She works at a private school and I for a mission school. Her salary is slightly higher than mine, yet she expects me to pay the bills on my own. I have been quiet for some time, but I am now fed up. Her money is there for her to look good, smell good and spend lavishly. She recently bought a car that I can never drive in her absence because she is a selfish woman. I am even considering leaving her with the children so she can feel the burden too. Tete Responds:
My brother, calm down. You are in need of one word that will take you a long way. The word is communication. A simple word that is not so easy to apply to our lives. You must talk to your partner about your concerns. She has to help you ease the burden of taking care of the family financially as well as being there emotionally and physically. Sometimes, expectations need to be highlighted as a relationship progresses because circumstances change. You might have not needed her help in the beginning, but with the introduction of children, things change. Do not give up yet, just communicate.
Keep living.
I want him as my boyfriend Dear Tete
I am a lady aged 20. I am crazily in love with this guy who is slightly older than me. We danced together once at a club and I thought we connected then. Sadly, when I meet him he just gives me the cold shoulder. I really like him even though he has a girlfriend. A few days ago, I even dreamt about him. What should I do?
Tete Responds:
What should you do? Forget him! He has a girlfriend and he does not give you a second glance, so why do you want to be with him? You are young and fresh. Pay attention to yourself and stop wasting time watching a blank screen. Imagine this. While you are waiting for the sun to come through on the night skies . . . the moon is shining, but you cannot even see it. Someone out there is noticing you, but you will not see him if you are looking right past him.
All the Best.
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