My mother gives me a difficult time
From MyHeart is a platform created for you to share your issues and get practical assistance. Together we can create brighter lives and happier people, transforming mindsets one day at a time. Send your heart to heart message to Tete Barbara and read her responses.
Backyard abortion haunts me Dear Tete
I am a 32-year-old married woman fighting for respect where I know it is undeserved. Eleven years ago, I fell pregnant out of wedlock and as my friends and I had become accustomed to, I went on to terminate the pregnancy. We frequented an old woman’s place in one of the high-density suburbs and got our regular concussion which sorted the issue. Little did I know that trouble was at hand when the pain went on longer than usual. I was in excruciating pain for days and eventually had my womb removed. My friends are happily married with children and I have none. My husband is yet to find out, but I hope it never come to that.
Tete Responds:
It is sad that you have gone through this painful experience and have to continue carrying the burden on your own. It is not necessary especially when you have a partner. Open up to your husband about your situation. Remember it involves him whether you like it or not. What has happened has happened, but let this be a warning to others who want to go down the same avenue. Find a good professional counsellor to help you through this period.
Good Luck!
My mother gives me a difficult time
Dear Tete
I am a 22-year-old lady facing challenges with my biological mother. I do not know what I do wrong most times and I sometimes feel that my existence does not please her. From a young age, I have tried to please her, but in vain. My two other siblings can misbehave in her presence, but they get away with it. I sometimes want to commit suicide or just runaway and never come back.
Tete Responds:
My dear, you are special and loved. You may not understand your mother’s actions towards you because you have not had an open communication relationship with her. It is sometimes believed that those who love each other the most tend to hurt each other the most. Perhaps, your mother is caught up in mixed emotions and strong desires for you. However, it is important that you find help immediately so that you erase all thoughts of suicide. Live your life hopeful and know that you have the potential to become the best.
My father dumped us for his girlfriend
Dear Tete
My father is living with a girlfriend and he no longer cares for us. My mother mysteriously passed away two years ago. Relatives and friends claimed that my father’s girlfriend killed my mother. I am young and I cannot do anything about it. A few months ago my father decided to leave us and he has since stopped taking care of us. I am selling my body to pay my fees and my brother’s too. I am tired of this life.
Tete Responds:
Where are your extended family members? Find them and communicate the challenges you are currently facing. If your relatives are unwilling to assist, please go to your church elders or community leadership who should be able to assist you in getting your father to honour his responsibility as a parent. If that channel does not work proceed to the local authorities who will direct you to organisations that can help you. Do not lose hope. Please find help immediately. You do not have to commercialise your body to survive.
All The Best.
◆ For more topical discussions tune into Diamond FM on 103.8Fm or Livestream on www.diamondfm. co.zw on Monday-Friday 3-6pm (HomeBound) Wednesday 8-9pm (Her Story) and Saturday7-8am (The Cushion). You can send an email to barbvsolo82@gmail.com.