I impregnated a girl older than me
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Wife vs best friend battle
Dear Tete
My best friend and his wife are poking their noses into my family business too much. We have always been very close friends keeping no secrets till I married my wife who prefers to keep private issues. My wife is always crying after hearing the numerous things my best friend’s wife tells people about our personal issues. I like my friend and I would like to keep our friendship but his wife is ruining everything.
Tete Responds:
When one gets married, one must embrace change too. Your life now includes your wife in it and therefore your actions must be a reflection of the new union. Your friend must know where to draw the line when it comes to your marriage, but he can only know if you set the boundaries. Please do not accuse your friend’s wife of being a rumour monger even if it is true! Keeping your affairs private and confidential will not break your friendship, if anything it will be stronger. No stories, no gossip equals happy wives and happy lives.
Poverty controlling my life
Dear Tete
I am a 17-year-old girl doing Form Three. My family is so poor that I am embarrassed to bring my friends home. I live in a tiny room with my mother and my two siblings in a high-density area. We struggle to feed, clothe and even pay rent and school fees. I pray everyday that God gives me a rich husband, but it is not happening. My father left us for another lady who has a house and two children. I guess he was also tired of our cursed poverty. Tete Responds:
My darling, you are the change you want to see. You have the potential to transform your life and that of your entire family if only you believe. Life is a learning ground that gives the toughest lessons to the strongest people. You have a bright future ahead of you. You can decide to work and walk towards it. A hard-working girl gets her own wealth and a rich man is a bonus. Marriage does not have the answers you are looking for. They are within you. Be strong, hard-working and hopeful. God will do what He promised to do, just hold on.
I impregnated a girl older than me
Dear Tete
I am 15 years old. My dilemma is too big for me to handle. I have impregnated a girl who is in Form Four and I am terrified of my parents. Sooner or later her parents will find out then mine will get to know it too. What can I do? Tete Responds:
You made a very big mistake son, but now you must be responsible by telling your parents what is going on. Waiting for the bomb to explode will just came more suffering to too many people. Talk to your dad or your mum as soon as possible. If you are unable to do so, find someone you are close to whom you trust to convey the message to your parents. I will not lie to you, they will be disappointed, but they will trust you for telling them. Your life has changed and you need your parents to help you through the new journey you are about to embark.
To youths ... Abstinence keeps you out of trouble. Books first, love later.
Take Care!
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