Mummy’s best friend is my squeezer
FROM My Heart is a platform created for you to share your issues and get practical assistance. Together we can create brighter lives and happier people, transforming mindsets one day at a time. Send your heart-toheart message to Tete Barbara and read her responses.
Dear Tete
I am in love with my mother’s best friend and I do not know how to tell her. We have been seeing each other for over two years now and she has since fallen pregnant. My mother says a lot of good things about her friend, but I am afraid that when she finds out the compliments may turn into insults. Help me. Tete Responds:
My son, you have not disclosed your age, but I want to believe that you are mature enough to make your own decisions. Dealing with your mother is a task that you will have to take up sooner or later. The risk of bad blood brewing between the best friends is very high and you must be prepared to handle the tension. It would have been nice if your girlfriend would have told her best friend what was going on, but then again it must have been difficult. If you are under age or if this relationship started when you were a child, then there is a problem. All the best.
Mum is the reason dad killed himself
Dear Tete
My father committed suicide a few years ago after he caught my mum with a boyfriend. I now hate my mother so much because if she had not been unfaithful he would be here. Sometimes I love her, but most days I just want her to go away. Tete Responds:
I am sorry for your loss and to lose a loved one under such circumstances must be very painful. You need to deal with the situation and find closure in order to move on. Blaming your mum is just a way of releasing the tension that is building up inside you, but it is not a solution. Your mother probably has her own side of the story and unfortunately your father chose to take his own life. Suicide is not the way to deal with problems, but clearly it just causes more trouble than one would have foreseen. Let him rest my case, but you must live a life full of love. Find a counsellor to help you out of your dilemma.
My brother gives me drugs, alcohol
Dear Tete
My older brother gives me beer and marijuana when my mum is not around. At first I thought it was cool when my brother’s friends offered me some alcohol. I felt like a big boy who had made it in to the big league. Of late, I have started bedwetting after smoking weed. I want to stop, but I cannot ask mum for help without getting my brother in trouble too. Help me. Tete Responds:
Well done for reaching out. This is the most important and responsible decision you have made. You have taken charge of your life in a positive way even though you had taken a wrong turn. You need to help your brother and his friends too. The best way is telling someone you trust what is going on. One day your brother will realise that you saved him from destruction. Remember in future that being cool is not being mischievous. Be smart, wise and successful.
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