My tongue belongs to the devil
FROM My Heart is a platform created for you to share your issues and get practical assistance. Together we can create brighter lives and happier people, transforming mindsets one day at a time. Send your heart to heart message to Tete Barbara and read her responses. Temper, tantrums ruining my
marriage
Dear Tete
I am a man aged 39 and married to a lady aged 28. I married her after the death of my first wife who succumbed to cervical cancer. My first wife was loyal, respectful and very soft. After her death, I decided to remarry and find a companion to continue the journey of life. This lady seemed to be nice until I discovered that she is moody and rude. She does not respect me or my family members. My children hate her and I am seriously thinking of divorcing her. She has a child with whom I have developed a strong bond, but I really feel she has not made equal effort with my children. Tete Responds:
First, sorry for the loss of your first wife. It is clear that you truly appreciate the nature of your first wife even in death. Moving on from a deceased spouse can be difficult for some people as they tend to compare the present partner with the deceased. Yes, it could be true that your wife is just a moody person with a bitter personality, but you should never compare her with your late wife. Separate the two and allow the current relationship to grow and survive its own life. If you truly believe that your new wife is incapable of changing, then divorce might be an option. Try professional counselling and if you still feel like divorce is a solution, follow your heart.
All the best
Brother raped my daughter Dear Tete I am broken right inside my heart so much that I feel like just locking my doors to cry all day. My brother, whom I trusted with everything raped my daughter and I am shattered. I think I saw the signs, but
chose not to act on them. This is a case I will not report, but I have cut all ties with my brother. My daughter and I agreed that we will not report him to the police because of our personal reasons. My brother was a drunkard who often fondled my maids’ breasts and once my daughter’s buttocks, but I ignored the moves. Yes, I have sent him away, but my daughter has to live with this for life because I ignored the matter. How do I get over this guilt?
Tete Responds:
My dear, you must report this incident because you will most likely regret not doing it at all. Right now not reporting it may seem to be a wise decision as you both are battling to move away from this predicament. In the long run your decision may come back to haunt you, so please think deep and long about your position.
Parents always carry burdens when it comes to making choices concerning their offspring and so you are no exception. Mistakes are a part of learning! You ignored a few red flags perhaps because you allowed your love for a sibling cloud your judgment as a parent . . . lesson learnt. Move on with the help of a professional counsellor, grow and thrive. Be Smart.
My tongue belongs to the devil Dear Tete When I was 14, I was initiated into a
cult by my brother and his friends. Now I am 22 and totally overpowered by the spirit on my tongue. I gave my tongue as a sacrifice to the altar of darkness for power and money. I can convince people to do what I like and I can lie about anything and get away with it. My problem is that I cannot have sexual relationships with any human being as I am saved for relations with spirits alone. I want a family of my own, what can I do?
Tete Responds:
This is quite disturbing and to move away from it means to denounce it. I do not know the dynamics of your contract with the organisation you belong to, but there must be a way to move away from it. Always understand the full terms and conditions of joining certain cults, organisations . . . etc. Children, always tell your parents about the things that you encounter that need their input, lest you fall into such traps. Turn to men of God to help you overcome this challenge.
All the Best
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