I killed my husband
FROM My Heart is a platform created for you to share your issues and get practical assistance. Together we can create brighter lives and happier people, transforming mindsets one day at a time. Send your heart to heart message to Tete Barbara and read her responses.
Dear Tete
I am a miserable woman living a terrible life. I have a secret that has been tormenting me for years. I believe I am the reason behind my husband’s death. He was a good man who provided well for me and the kids. Sadly, I was ungrateful and greedy. I wanted more than he gave me. My husband found me being intimate with a colleague of his from work and decided to commit suicide by consuming poison. He did not speak to anyone or leave any note. No-one suspected me of having a hand in his death, but I know the real reason. I am tormented! Tete Responds:
People make mistakes everyday. People hurt people everywhere. People regret certain actions every time. It is never easy to remove guiltiness from one’s conscience. We must think before we act to avoid living with burdens that are unbearable. Forgive yourself and understand that your partner equally had his own issues. Find a professional counsellor to help you.
Dear Tete
My daughter is married to a man who beats her. She refuses to leave him and there is nothing more I can do as a mother. My issue with my in-law is that he owes me my cow. It was and part of the bride price. He has since paid for everything else, but never gave me my cow. I want it before I die. I do not want to curse my sonin-law for non-payment of the cow. These men like paying after the rightful owner has died.
Tete Responds: Your son-in-law must give you your cow as agreed. However, you should follow respectable methods of inquiring on the matter. Consult your elders and allow them to send word to your in-laws. They should respond when they have consulted their son. Perhaps, he has forgotten or maybe he is facing financial constraints. Your people should also take the opportunity to remind and caution your “mukwasha”. Make him know that you are aware of how he is treating your daughter and that you are not happy. You need to be there for your daughter. Her life and happiness is more important than getting a cow.
All the Best.
I am a womaniser
Dear Tete
I cannot control myself when it comes to women. From tally skinny, ugly . . . I want them all. I have several children all over the country. I am struggling to send them to school and feeding them is an uphill task. I never wanted this sort of life. I have developed health complications that are emanating from my behaviour. I have had several deliverances from prophets to no avail.
Tete Responds: Deliverance must begin in the mind where the workshop is stationed. You must be in control of your actions. If you make a decision, your lifestyle must follow through. You may need to discard a few bad friends, find a mentor, change your activities and monitor your progress. It will not happen overnight. You have already started the journey by realising your virus. Now, remedy it by taking practical action. Focus on the children you already have and your health. One day at a time. All the Best
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