Mudzimba with Mai Chisamba Affair with married fellow congregant

HELLO Mai Chisamba, I am 19 years old and I come from a broken home.

My parents divorced when I was seven and this affected me so much. For me it was like the end of the world. I am grateful to my mum because she is the one who took care of me despite the hardships she faced. I did O-Level and I passed with five subjects. I tried to look for work but could not find any. Sometime last year I fell in love with a married guy, a father of two. We met at church and he proposed love, we clicked as if we had known each other all our lives.

He is gainfully employed and the good thing is he does not stay with his wife, she works out of town. She is like a weekend wife to him. I am like the official one because we spend long hours together. I love this guy with all my heart and he tells me that he feels the same. The truth is we now stay together. I only go back on this platform and it is just unfortunate. The Christian religion you are talking about has very straight forward dos and don’ts from the Bible and that is to be adhered to.

The good thing is we are free to choose a religion, which allows us to do what we want with our lives. Mothers, as I always say, are supposed to be the backbones of their families, not trouble causers as in your mother’s case. Your father is not doing what he should as the head of family. Taking a back seat then vonyarara is cowardice at its worst ndiyo mbwende yababa, why does he not say something? It is not for me to say kun’anga nekumaporofita kwakadii but most families are caught napping. Nyaya dzekufamba hadzina kusiyana nefodya, they are very addictive.

Some will go to consult for very petty everyday issues because it is in their blood. The route she is taking will most likely have

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GEMINI (May 21 to June 20) home every Friday. To begin with I did not mind giving way to his wife but now I feel hurt and angry each time I do this. This guy is my life, I no longer feel anything for any other men ndatoperera.

I cannot even imagine myself being with anyone else besides this great guy.

The reason why I have written to you is because with the way things are going ndakutya kuti vanotorambana chete and I do not want to be the cause. The guy says he does not mind marrying me but I am too young to be a second wife. I am in the middle and I do not know which direction to take please help. When other guys try to be befriend me I shy away mukati hapana zvaakandiita here uyu munhu? RESPONSE I feel sorry because you come from a broken home background but I think your mum did a good job, she raised you as best as she could and put her viewing many people as enemies and this will keep her in panic mode. What has she done which is exceptionally out of this world that everyone sees her as a threat? I urge you to start talking as a family — baba, amai and all your siblings.

Try and find common ground, let your sister learn to work with her husband. If this does not yield anything tell amai that you would call her pastor to come and assist. Tell her never to use the church as a dumping ground handiko kwekuendesa zvinhu zvavasina trust nazvo, that is wrong. If she has differences with her daughters-in-law she must not blame them falsely.

It also pays to conduct prayers and share scriptures within the family. Kana vasingade zvinhu zvekuigirwa ngavataure it is not fair to throw these things away. The people who bring the parcels do it from the bottom of their hearts. Keep your peace and serve

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Yes, you are a major but at 19 I think you still need a bit of handholding from mum and the immediate community. We have an adage which says “kuzvara kwemumwe kuzvara kwakowo”. This married man you are dating does not live in a vacuum. When you go to stay with him during the week people see you and they know that this guy is married, why can they not say something or kungotsiura? When the wife comes home they pretend as if nothing ever goes on, what a shame! You stay with your mother saka the master of your choice, do not mix religions. I know many people take churches as clubs where they can spend time with their friends. People should instead attend church for the correct reasons.

If there is no improvement then we may need to go outside family and church but for now I think you have a starting point. Remember you are dealing with family so due respect is expected all the way. She will always be your mum. *** I AM a 24-year-old maid and I had my baby boy when I was 20.

Things did not go well with the father of the child so we broke up. I have two O-Levels, I am working in order to supplement the other three subjects and to help look after my child who stays with my parents SCORPIO (October 24 to

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You are at high risk of contracting STIs like HIV and AIDS because you are part of a love triangle. You go to the same church and you have an illicit affair with a fellow congregant saka muri kunamatei? That is morally wrong. Some people have been either maimed or killed as a result of these love triangles. Chauri kuita ndicho chinonzi chipfambi. It hurts me when married men or women take advantage of young innocent people in exchange for a few dollars or some groceries. It seems you see things in reverse, why is it ‘a good thing’ that he does not stay with his wife during the week?

Why are you getting confused, it is actually a bad thing because it is making it harder for you to leave this man. kumusha.

The father pays child support. This is my second job as a maid. When I started the lady I work for embraced me with both hands. She introduced me to people as her cousin, the kids call me mainini and I am treated as family. We talk, we laugh and we go to places together. I help do her hair and nails.

I have been with this family for the past two-and-a-half years but the last six months have been different. Amai let me into a grave secret that she was cheating on her husband with her childhood sweetheart. The favour she asked from me was to introduce this guy to the family as my lover so that whenever he comes there will be no suspicion. I had no choice but to agree because of the way she treats me.

At times we drive together to my rural home to go and give my parents and child provisions and clothes. Her husband was against the idea of my so-called boyfriend Remember the woman you are referring to is his wife. If he truly loves you why does he send you away when his wife is in town? Usaperere hako hapana chimuko apa. I urge you to forget about this guy and start on a clean slate. Start by going for an HIV test. I agree with you on not considering to become his second wife, get your own husband. You are only 19 usazvipotsere and do not be a factor in their divorce.

Mind you the wife is not even aware of your existence. The direction to take is to just stop what you are doing. Hapana kana zvawakaitwa you just need to calm down and take it as a life lesson, you are only 19 and trying to figure love and relationships out. As a parting remark I urge you not to be fooled, keep your pride, you can do far much better than this guy. Refuse to be a substitute wife. I wish you all the best. coming home. Mama vakabva vati munomurambidza asi munomuda kani? Then he reluctantly gave in. On two occasions baba came unannounced because he works out of town and found this guy home. Mama would say to him pindai henyu kwasisi uku babamudiki. He would be in my room longer than anticipated and we would become intimate.

This is how it started, in short my boss and l are dating the same guy. He is a divorcee and now wants to marry me because he is tired of having to cheat when I am available and equally as good if not better.

He comes home even when amai is away and we have fun kana vauya vanongonzi you kept me waiting. Just last week baba said to mama make sure this guy marries sisi ndimi makamupa freedom yepano zvichazokunetsai izvi.

Please help I am between the depth and the devil. I am madly in love and this is my chance to get married. On the other hand can I betray this woman’s trust? I cannot list what she has done fo

r me achitenda kumuchengetedza kwandinoita. Mama vakatondidzidzisawo kunwa tuma ciders utu life yatochinja. I have written to you because I know you will tell it as it is.

I am very eager and so is this guy, what do you make of this? Response What a letter! Such drama! It sounds like a West African movie. You are a mother with a difference because your reasons for work are education and the welfare of your child — do not let that escape your mind. When I read the first paragraph of your letter I got so impressed by your new boss kukugashira sehama. Later on I saw that she had something up her sleeve.

In life we have something called integrity, which is to remain true to yourself, unmoved even if someone offers you heaven and earth to corrupt your character. In your heart of hearts you know that what mama your employer is doing is wrong and it cannot be sugar coated. You are not thinking as a parent because you are putting yourself at risk of contracting STI’s. We have an adage which says “ukadziya moto wembavha newewo uri mbavha”, surely that is what you are.

In this drama, who is fooling who? Shame on you! I thought you learnt your lesson when you had your first baby that things do not always go your way. I thought you would be ashamed to say you were dating the same guy as your boss. There is nothing to be proud of here, oh God forbid. I suggest you leave this guy alone even if you get married, your relationship will lack trust mawanana muchitsotsi nechipfambi. Where is your pride? How do you feel when a man who has been with another woman is ushered to your room? Vasikana musadaro kani the world is full of men who are looking for women of integrity.

You should also consider quitting your job, it will not be long before the cat is out of the bag unofira mafufu segonzo.

Even if your boss does not know what is going on you have already betrayed her, your conscience should tell you that. I see you are trying to force yourself into the fast lane, please take one step at a time mai bhoi.

I have nothing against your new lifestyle yekunwa tuma ciders but please do not ever bite more than you can chew. You are young and full of potential, it is never too late to press reset. I wish you all the best. Write to: maichisamba@fbnet. co.zw or WhatsApp 0771415747