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UN­DER­STAND­ING ABUSE

Thank you, Elli Ja­cobs, for your sen­si­tively writ­ten piece about Manuela Whit­field (‘Trauma Will Not Define Me’, July is­sue). As a woman who has lived through do­mes­tic abuse, I find that women like us are often con­demned for not leav­ing an abu­sive re­la­tion­ship. As Manuela points out, “abusers tend to iso­late victims from fam­ily and friends as a way to con­trol them and to per­pet­u­ate abuse”. Those who think abused wives should “just leave” have no idea of what it is like to be trapped by threats of vi­o­lence, and fi­nan­cial and psychologi­cal abuse, as I was.

For abusers, the whole point is to ren­der their victims in­ca­pable of fight­ing back. I had no more abil­ity to leave than did my chil­dren. Now I am away from the sit­u­a­tion, I can see there were ways out, but not when I was in it. Abusers don’t even need to ac­tu­ally be vi­o­lent – just the threat of vi­o­lence to­wards their part­ner, chil­dren, ex­tended fam­ily or even pets is enough to keep their victims com­pli­ant. And hus­bands like mine are not re­motely in­flu­enced by le­gal mea­sures like pro­tec­tion orders. He had no fear of con­se­quences. It would have been more im­por­tant to him to pun­ish me, re­gard­less of what might hap­pen to him.

I am now divorced and liv­ing a happy, ful­filled, single life. But my heart goes out to the mul­ti­tudes of women who are still stuck in an abu­sive re­la­tion­ship and see no way out. Please do not judge, but help any­one you know in such a sit­u­a­tion to get the help they need. Your love and sup­port may just give them the be­lief that es­cape is pos­si­ble. Name with­held by re­quest

GROW­ING IN­TER­EST

I just bought my first MiND­FOOD mag­a­zine, and I was very im­pressed at the fo­cus on health and well­be­ing. I was par­tic­u­larly in­ter­ested in the ar­ti­cles about ca­cao and kohlrabi (June is­sue) – so much so that it’s en­cour­aged me to grow my own. Jessica

MIND­FUL MORN­INGS

It’s 6:30am on Sun­day morn­ing (yes, I am an early riser) and I’m sit­ting in my lounge, lis­ten­ing to jazz – a cof­fee in one hand, MiND­FOOD in the other – wait­ing for the rest of the world to wake up. The morn­ing couldn’t be more per­fect. It’s really im­por­tant to me to take time like this to re­lax and recharge; liv­ing in this busy, hur­ried world – so thank you for aid­ing in my mind­ful tran­quil­ity. Jemma

THE TIME OF YOUR LIFE

I loved the ar­ti­cle ‘Fifty & Fab­u­lous’ (June is­sue). In my fifties I took up run­ning and re­sis­tance train­ing, and it was the best thing I ever did. I met an 87-year-old on a walk­ing tour in Copen­hagen and de­cided that’s what I want to be like when I get old.

At 62, I don’t worry about my age or my wrinkles. I work on my fit­ness in­stead – es­pe­cially mobility. There is so much to do and we don’t know how long we have left – so don’t waste it on things you can’t change. Deb­o­rah

IN­SPIR­ING WOMEN

Thank you for giv­ing us an in­sight into how some women cope in refugee camps af­ter flee­ing from their homes and coun­tries (‘From Bro­ken Lives’, June is­sue). I was im­pressed with the courage and dig­nity of these women, and the pride they have in them­selves, de­spite all they have been through.

The pain of leav­ing their homes and all that is fa­mil­iar to them is so hard to imag­ine. I can only hope there is a place in the sun some­where for them and their fam­i­lies. Brenda

UN­CON­DI­TIONAL LOVE

I have to com­mend Michael’s elo­quent ar­ti­cle say­ing good­bye to his dear cat, Ash (June is­sue). An­i­mals bring love, com­fort, peace and joy; but I feel they also teach us things about our­selves. Many years ago the fam­ily dachshund would in­stinc­tively pre­dict my sis­ter’s epilep­tic seizures and stay be­side her.

Thank you for high­light­ing the heart­break and re­spect that own­ing and lov­ing an an­i­mal brings. Sally

Past is­sues in­spired plenty of feed­back, and we love to hear how the mag­a­zine gets our smart read­ers think­ing.

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